Most ladies are in relationships and they keep asking questions just to be sure they are doing the right thing or taking the right step. I must say I admire that because when you do not know and you ask questions most times you are guided properly but other times you could be led into the gutter.
Okay o , I have been in various conversations when ladies are asked if you find your man cheating what will you do. And then most of them give replies like I will walk away and never turn back, that's modest but how many of us will walk away and feel that walking away was right and not want to blow the dust?
I will be stating 3 things you should never do when you get him cheating:
- Meet with the Girl: What is it?! Why will you want to do that. Most times this is the first step people think of, but NOOO!! You should be able to guide your worth, act the mature one and do not even make the lady realize you are aware of her existence. If the foundation of the relationship is right and you committed it to God at the beginning take it back to him as he is the only one who can solve the puzzle. Your mouth does not have the ability to change a man just like I stated in my previous post DO PEOPLE CHANGE PEOPLE IN RELATIONSHIPS, only God has the ability to.
- Condemn Him In Public: This is one thing most ladies tend to do when they are faced with the issue of their man cheating on them. Remember, if you condemn him in the public it is more or less like washing your dirty linen outside, which should not be so. Bad character does not hide itself, do not go around wasting your valued time spreading stories to the world on how he is the worst person ever when you could invest it in doing better things. With silence you will give yourself the respect you deserve.
- Apologize to Him: Love and more love. Love is sweet but never allow the sweetness turn you to being foolish with your actions. He has wronged you, do not let him brain wash your thoughts by saying "no I did not do that, I was just...." and then you go saying I am sorry. That's psychology he just used on you, do not apologize for the wrong he did, not when you saw it with your own eyes.
There are lots not to do but these are the few I will be stating. Kindly add yours in comment box below. Hope to hear from you.
What do you think about the advice? What can you add to the advice?
My first thought when I saw this was 'I'll just leave him' and then that was the first 'do not' youspoke about. I don't know how I'll stay back when I know my spouse cheated. I just hope at that period I'll be able to think about all the time and effort and sacrifices I had worked into the relationship to just let it all go away.
ReplyDeleteYea it is not easy to take the memories away, but it is possible. Thanks for your comment.
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DeleteHello Dr Uju,
ReplyDeleteDo you have a follow up article on what to do when this happens? These are the DON'Ts how about the DOs?
Thanks for your reply Dr. I will write on that shortly. Thanks for the suggestion.
ReplyDeleteThanks for the tips
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