Monday Inspiration: Always Believe in Yourself

Hello dear lovers and readerssssssss, I trust the weekend went well and I am certain the week will turn out lovely as well, but before we dive into the week there is just one advice I will love to give which is ALWAYS BELIEVE IN YOURSELF, not your neighbor, not your friend, not your colleague, not your car but YOURSELF and then this should be done ALWAYS even when it doesn’t look like it, even when obviously the situation keeps telling you, things you haven't done right. Always believe in your self.

In every individual lies their strengths and weaknesses(EVERY) but the minute you can discover your strength and hold on fast to it, you have the best thing in the world.

Do not bother about who does believe and who doesn't believes in you. One question you should learn to ask yourself is: Am I doing the right thing, what’s the right thing? That which gives us peace on our inside, let no one take it away from you.

Soooo glad to be back

It feels super good to be back!! Woohoo!! 

I can’t even say hello to my lovers I once had here anymore because I know I have lost most of you but we will get to have that awesome relationship again. 

A lot has happened over the years but I am grateful it has all happened for good. 

How have you been?  

Please tell me in the comment section below. 

It is going to be an awesome time of inspiration, laughter and everything amazing, I might just be doing a bit of career this time, not like I know it all but I have gotten a hang of it now and I think I can be of help. 

My U-lovers. I missed you all, I don’t know how to go about this journey but right now there is one thing I know, I have got you all and we can go through this journey together, you and I know that this is my true zone, we share and learn from the heart and we keep it true.. 

Thanks to all my friends who have encouraged me to write again, my heart blesses you and I am certain you know how important you will always be, I am super grateful and to those who kept asking why I stopped writing, well....unnecessary excuses but never mind, we are back and you and I know it only gets better. 

Please leave a comment below and tell me what you want me to write. 

Please encourage me! 

Thank you 🙏🏻 

How To Create Peace On Your Inside for Better Results (Part 2).

Yesterday I started the lesson on how to create peace on your inside for better result.

I gave the number one point which is CONSCIOUSLY SAY THOSE THINGS: I stated that we should say those things out and let them flow. Allow your expression from your head flow freely from your lips, automatically you awaken the filtration method in your mind which extracts the relevant thoughts from the irrelevant, as you speak you keep hearing those things which are not supposed to be and those that are.

The Second way is to STOP: I mean STOP, stop saying those things now, it is almost a habit for us to start something and not know when to stop. You need the time to stop and think about all you have just said. Pay proper attention to the words you have just spoken:
Now in this stop process, there are things to watch out for. Remember every thought that has passed through your mind or rather that bothers us are what we have categorically termed BAD. Remember nothing is bad until we say it is. So when a thought becomes a worry it is because we have attached some sort of negativity with it. So now the question is:
The things you have said out which did you categorically stated as Negative/bad, why?
Upon answering that we can then go to the next step which is

How To Create Peace On Your Inside for Better Results (Part 1).

Asides the fact that the greatest peace comes from feeling and having the presence of God, we also have the obligation to create that peaceful life for our everyday living.

There are times when we try to cloud our minds with things that matter and things that really truely do not matter (stop for a minute and ask yourself, what is bothering my mind now and does it really matter?)

We often get so carried away in our thoughts that we barely know or have time to sort out which is right for us at the moment and which is not.

I can tell you this because I know and I have been there. I was once called a thinker box, I travel in my own mind in less than 5mins, I remember then in school, I could be having a lecture and I am gone in thoughts, one day I had a friend walk up to me and tell me, you really should stop this act and I wondered what it was, he has been observing me and he had noticed that I think a lot.

Prepare Your Mind

Nobody needs to tell you.

I remember waking up today with so much excitement feeling, like I got everything I needed and even more.

I stepped out feeling really neat and my clothes well straightened, it is Monday and there should be a lot of excitement in the air. I walked down the street and I boarded a vehicle headed to work.

The weather was so beautiful just before I left home, it just felt like that kind of day where you would want to sit in the sun and just admire how beautiful nature looks.

Perspection

Perspective is not about what you see but the meaning you label to it.

I am faced with a situation of how life has happened. But then what really matters are how we view life from the angle we tend to look at things.

Life dishes in our face different scenarios but we are left to interpret those scenarios in way that will set us free rather than lock us up

I remember growing up, I had an amazing(I call it amazing now but then I described it otherwise) experience, I met my mum and dad not in the best of moods after having the couple not happy drama and I was trying to approach my mum to tell her something I believed could help the situation and the next thing that happened was just a feeling that I got that I could not relate why and how but here was I standing in front of my mum who had just given me a resounding slap that has left me wondering “why did you not just listen to me first?”

Smile Because You Can

Is it possible to stay smiling? A question someone asked me the other day. I sat on this question for a while because I had previously had a conversation with a friend and he goes, you are never smiling, you should learn to keep smiling so people will know you are approachable.

I wondered why should I just keep smiling even when walking on the road. But the day I tried it, I got these 3 answers,

Seeking Social Validation

Seeking Social Validation....I AM, ARE YOU? Ohhhh! Scratch that.

Let us start over…

Hey awesome people, I feel so glad having to come drop my 0.5 cents on what I feel on my areas of concentration.

Where did it all go wrong? Are the gyms suddenly increasing in their numbers making people lose who they truly are?

The Journey To Self-Awareness

A lot has been said about mission, purpose and passion, people who do not connect with these almost feel there is something wrong with them, but hey! there is nothing wrong. I totally understand because I have been there, what in heaven’s name does passion mean, what in heaven’s name does purpose mean? I asked all these questions because then I could not connect with what people were saying about purpose, passion, mission and vision and how it related to me. I could not stop asking, must everyone have a purpose, passion, mission and vision?

The answer is a big YES and that was the reason why we were all created, if you have not discovered yours does not mean it does not exist, but to discover your purpose, something must be done first.

I soon got to realise I did not understand any of these questions because I really and truly did not understand WHO I WAS. I really was not aware to Self, I did not understand my values, I never took time to imagine if I even had a skill, I lived everyday as it came. I INTENTIONALLY had to go through the process of getting to know, understand me for me, my skills, knowledge, values and responsibilities and hidden in all of these came the answer to my question of must everyone have a vision, purpose, passion and mission.

I will share on that today as I know there are people out there who have same question bothering them.

It is called the journey to Self-Awareness (My little secret for discovering who you truly are)

Does my mood have anything to do with my thoughts?

I remember when I used to be the Lady of the mood swingers, when the next minute I am happy and then some moments later, I become the devil you never want to meet, my mood swing was actually like the kids swing, it swings from up to down at will. I almost did not know how to control it but then I also did not like what was going on, some even went ahead to say I was suffering from bi-polar disorder.

I intentionally decided to find out what exactly was going on with me. Why can I not just be happy and remain happy, why do I have to switch moods without a reason.

The truth is I thought there was no reason but they actually were reasons and the major reason was my thoughts.  The thin line between the moment we are happy and the moment we are not is the things we think about. As my journey to finding a solution to this “disorder” began, I realised whenever I listened to songs I always felt like I just got a revival but then it was not about the songs, it was the thought of the feel behind the song.

It is simple to know that the thoughts that go on in our head defines our behaviour. The behaviour/character we let out is as a result of the thoughts we had in our head.

I got to discover personally that my moods were as a result of thoughts of offences, character or action that I could not maybe speak or complain to the individual about. So I believed I had let it go but then It came up someway and somehow to trouble my mind and in turn switches who I am in some minutes.

This is what happens when we tend to store up a whole lot of things from the past on our inside. The thoughts that come out to be negative actions are those thoughts that store up in our minds to become garbage and the best way to let your thoughts be right is to let go of the garbage.

Free up the space.

Are you going to free up your space today?

Is it possible to let go of the garbage? YES IT IS!

Aligning your thoughts for a Happier You

Research has shown that 40% of our happiness comes from our thoughts and actions, which also mean that they are dependent on what we can take control of.

You can not imagine how much your thoughts limits you, it is as important as the steps we take everyday.

The things we think act as a block to our level of success and hence reduces our ability for all round success. Is this true?

I recently conducted a Q & A session trying to find out what makes people unhappy, I expected to see Financial crisis at the top of the list but then I got answers that had about 50% on Self, 40% on family, relationship and about 10% on financial crisis and the economy.

This goes a long way to further explain how we are products of what we think. Let us take a few of Self-Imposed thought actions:

- Sadness: I personally refer to sadness as the downtime of a person, leading to the inability to express Joy. Let us relate this to our technology, when they say there is a down time in our network, this simply states that some internal factors have gone low hence leading to interruption in the outward result of the network, the down time is from the back-end, so also is sadness a result of the back-end. The back-end in this case refers to our thoughts.

If you notice, you do not get sad in a second, you often get sad after a period of time and it starts with a frown, meaning that you actually sat and thought about the situation hence you got deeper into it and it caused a down time.

- Depression: This can be as a result of compound forces, which include but to mention a few, hatred, sadness, anger e.t.c. The ultimate effect of depression is the thought of Suicide.

The compound factors of hatred, sadness, anger are also from the back-end, which is your thought.

The uniqueness of our thoughts is that we are in CONTROL.

Guess you never thought about that.

How then do we align our thoughts towards happiness?

-Accept that you have the wrong thoughts
-Look for what revives your positive being (Personally songs and words of affirmation do it for me)
-Saturate your thoughts with everything positive, rather than think of who hurt you, think of who gave you that ultimate compliment (maybe not a compliment but who made you smile).

Does this happen in a day? Obviously not. It is a daily effort.

So let me hear from you, what did you struggle with? Anger, fear, depression or any other and let us know how you got through them.

"You Ought to be nothing but Happy"

Persistence: The Toddler's Theory

I have a baby nephew and I must say, I am learning a whole lot from him. And one of these amazing characters I have learnt from him is persistence.

“You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it.” Maya Angelou

Toddlers in their very beautiful look and beautiful heart as well tend to teach us little things we do not know but we can only learn this if we take out time to understand we can learn from everyone around us and even the toddlers are not left out. I learnt a life transforming lesson from my nephew.

No Stopping Now

In life, the challenges you see are definitely gateways to success.

This post is a plan B of what I was originally supposed to put up today. I had this vision for a while now and I have been fighting the fear of how will I start.

What do I do first, but after several consultations of coaches and all, I still could not conquer(we suffer what we teach) but then there was this push inside of me to go ahead and just start somewhere, I created a facebook group.

I started the process and even completed it. Welcomed the new members to the group but then after a few shares, I went back to the group page and I could not view the page again and it was gone, like completely gone, I  could not view anything there again.

This still looked like a surprise to me. I continued trying, logged off and In again and then I realized it was reality.

What was I supposed to do, be sad, be bothered, I even got the feeling of deleting the group, but I could not. Then I sort the professionals of professionals that I have as my friends but they could not help out, until eventually one said this is kind of weird but send a message to facebook reporting the problem, oh well, I have done that and if I do not get a reply on time, guess what I am going to do?

I will open another one.

Its just in my head and I am wondering, why, but I definitely cannot keep dining on the why's, I am rather moving on to keep studying, when that is sorted, I will come back loaded to commence.

I shared this story of my fears with someone and the person goes, can you be scared, even as you tell people not to be scared. Oh yes! I can, I am human, nothing stops me from being scared, as much as I write does not make me perfect. I am still in the school of life, I have a very long way to go.

So today I am here to leave you all with two advices:

- Never think you are a complete write-off: When you look at people smiling all the time, make up on fleek, picture on fleek and you ask yourself, what is wrong with me? The answer is, Nothing is wrong with you, we all face fears, we all have that thing which scares us but the ability to walk through the fire and come out strong is what makes everyone different. Whatever level you are now is a phase you will get through.

- Do not let the obstacles stop you: Life is more like running a hurdle race, I have asked this before, if you were put on a track for a hurdle and you get to the first obstacle will you stop the race and turn back? Not at all. That is how life is, nobody promised life will be a bed of roses, even roses have thorns, the obstacles in life will definitely come, but looking beyond them and looking forward to the prize is what matters.

MOMENTS OF INSPIRATION: POWER OF THE MIND

Hello lovelies, so sorry for the break in transmission(PHCN was not involved).

It has been an amazing season/period for me in preparation for 2016, you and I know it must not meet me by surprise.
Let me give you a brief of how this month has been thus far, I attended a workshop by an amazing lady Steph Obi, "Start your online business" it was spectacular, it is what we describe as right investment *winks* Check out her online empire here. So watch this space for something bigger by God's Grace in 2016. Oh yeeeaahh!!!

And now my program in church is on, 2016 I sight you.... You are not ready for what we have for you, I know we are all strategizing for 2016, please share your plans below, so we can tap in.

So unto today's topic,

The power of the mind.

The mind is one of the most powerful forces on the earth. It can either make a man or break a man. It is what coordinates and keeps the person going, that’s why the bible says “AS A MAN THINKETH IN HIS HEART SO IS HE”. The mind is the most important tool in our everyday life and it is the most important tool for our success.

To become something in life or not, it starts from the mind. The mind gives you the fuel to keep going in difficult and hopeless times. There’s a song I love and it goes “If I can see it, then I can do it, If I just believe it, there's nothing to it ……”. Check all the successful people in the world today and all the unsuccessful ones, what differentiated them when they were all on ground zero was their ability to think right. Wealth and Poverty are generated from our thought, even if you can't see it, who would arrest you for thinking it. THINK BIG all the time and everytime.

Let me share how our mind plays a vital role in our everyday life by using a common example, when we take coffee to read all night because we have a serious examination we tend to stay awake all through the night and not even doze for a second but when we take the same coffee when we don’t have any exam or activity to be done at night, we tend to sleep that night and even like a baby, That’s the power of the mind. When we have a serious examination, our mind knows and so it is fully alert and conscious of this fact which makes us stay awake all night but when we don’t have anything doing, our mind is also conscious of that fact and thus it is relaxed and at ease so we tend to have a sound sleep that night.

A broken bone isn't a broken mind.

                                

Hello lovelies, how was your week? You see that girl in that picture is feeling very strong in her bones (speaking with faith) after a very very stressful week, my goodness!!! but then we thank God and what can stop me from having my smoothie? not even a broken bone. I virtually broke all of my blogging schedules this week and I sincerely apologise. Next week will definitely be better. 

Today I will be discussing about the mind, using myself as a living example, so as to make you understand you are not alone. We have discussed self love a lot, now let's move to the next phase of getting you motivated and keeping your positivism alive. 

The mind, the bedrock of good and evil. That's how I see it. Before we act, it arises first from the mind, even though a few of us do not think before we act, not thinking does not mean it was not in the mind. The mind is a store room where you store love, hatred, joy and sadness, today I ask you what do you have in your store(mind)? 

Relating to the topic, I stated earlier that my bones are very strong, I feel too tired to even move a feet but have I decided to store that? If I keep in mind that my body is weak, then automatically I feel completely weak and that will lead me to want to stay in bed, then it continues and next thing I start saying I am running temperature, I feel funny e.t.c . The theory/truth about the mind is simple and that is one thought in mind leads to another and a million more.