The Person in the Waiting Room.

I was having a meeting with one of my mentors today and it brought a light bulb moment(God bless mentors) 

He made me understand that sometimes you do not just have to settle for anything, all you need do is just keep waiting. 

You do not necessarily have to take that leap from your job just because the next looks enticing and hell no this other job did not just soothe you anymore. It's possible that where you are does not suit you but it does not necessarily mean that just any leap is the leap for you. 

A few questions have to be answered first and I will be talking about the most important question:

Does it give you peace? 

It is possible that something looks so nice, it even coincidentally tallies with what you have set your mind to achieve but then does it give you peace on your inside. 

The very clear truth is we all know when we are at peace with something or someone and when we naturally do not welcome them from within but we try so hard to bake the situation and just go with the excuse of it tallies with what I told God or what I imagined in this year 2016. 

The question is not about the tally, it is about the peace because that is the clearest way of making a decision and if you get sincere with yourself, you just make that decision to stay waiting. 

Who says it's easy, when almost the truth stares you in your face. 

But ask yourself would you rather settle for almost the truth or stay waiting for the truth. 

The truth is not a myth, it is a reality.

The 6th Month Relaxation and Year Plan Review

The 6th month of the year is here, it's almost up and it has got most of us having cold feet. A Lot was expected to be done before now but yet little or nothing has been achieved or not as much has been achieved.

It has not gotten bad yet, all it might just need you to do is take some time off. The only way you can get to run at a faster speed is if you take some time to train and understand the tracks and what the race looks like. The same goes with putting your vision into action for the months left in the year.

Does my mood have anything to do with my thoughts?

I remember when I used to be the Lady of the mood swingers, when the next minute I am happy and then some moments later, I become the devil you never want to meet, my mood swing was actually like the kids swing, it swings from up to down at will. I almost did not know how to control it but then I also did not like what was going on, some even went ahead to say I was suffering from bi-polar disorder.

I intentionally decided to find out what exactly was going on with me. Why can I not just be happy and remain happy, why do I have to switch moods without a reason.

The truth is I thought there was no reason but they actually were reasons and the major reason was my thoughts.  The thin line between the moment we are happy and the moment we are not is the things we think about. As my journey to finding a solution to this “disorder” began, I realised whenever I listened to songs I always felt like I just got a revival but then it was not about the songs, it was the thought of the feel behind the song.

It is simple to know that the thoughts that go on in our head defines our behaviour. The behaviour/character we let out is as a result of the thoughts we had in our head.

I got to discover personally that my moods were as a result of thoughts of offences, character or action that I could not maybe speak or complain to the individual about. So I believed I had let it go but then It came up someway and somehow to trouble my mind and in turn switches who I am in some minutes.

This is what happens when we tend to store up a whole lot of things from the past on our inside. The thoughts that come out to be negative actions are those thoughts that store up in our minds to become garbage and the best way to let your thoughts be right is to let go of the garbage.

Free up the space.

Are you going to free up your space today?

Is it possible to let go of the garbage? YES IT IS!

‪#‎Redefining‬ Self for leadership: Part 2 (Your Identity)

There is one thing we can never run away from and that's our shadow. Even if we try to leave it goes with us wherever we go. That exactly is what our identity feels like.

We barely know how much influence we leave in the life of people we meet or hang around. By our identity, people tend to look up to us or ignore us based on what we display to them. Our identity is our stigma that we almost cannot depart from.

Having to lead simply means getting to have the right identity.

What then depicts the right identity?

#Redefining Self for Leadership: Part 1 (Words of the mouth).

We never know how powerful the words we use can be powerful until we become victims, people value us by what we say, most things happen to us by what we say and lots more. To be a person of value and to be valued, you have to mind how you use your words. 

Leadership starts from our words.

I personally do know how dangerous the words of the mouth are because I have been a victim.

Happy New Month to us all.

The first quarter is over and it is time to refine self. So we will be doing a series on refining self.  

True Self and Non-conformity

It is often common to see people state how they want to stand out from what people are doing, they want to be unique and then it is funny that more often than not that uniqueness you strive so hard to get is what someone else is already living as a unique style. Quite complicated.

I would not want to wear red because everyone is wearing red, I would rather wear blue. This is non-conformity, trying to stand out and be different from the crowd. Here you have the crowd dictating to you what you should do and what you should not do.

What then is true self? Being your true self means doing what is your best fit.

Most times we tend to mix our lives of non-conformity/uniqueness to being our true self but these two are entirely different.

Non-conformity is making decisions based on dictations from the crowd and True self is making decisions based on self and best fit.


In life we ought to learn to be our true self rather than try not to conform to what others say.

I have been a victim too.

I needed to go for an occasion sometime and I went online in search of a shoe. I saw a very beautiful shoe, it was so beautiful and my size was available(very happy me). I did not hesitate to click the purchase button, then I got a call almost immediately to confirm the order. I was so excited (I am always excited when I know something new that "I love" is coming).

On my way home at the close of work that same day, I stopped at the mall to quickly get myself some toiletries and on stepping in I saw a lady beautifully dressed at first glance, I had not taken my time to look at her properly and when I had a proper look from head to toe....Guess what I saw???

My Shoe!!! I actually felt like someone was wearing my own shoe even though mine had not arrived and then I just automatically said to myself this shoe is everywhere(I wonder how one meant all).

Unfortunately I could not cancel my order, so I had to accept the shoe when it came but then the love I had for it had faded as I already told myself it is everywhere and I can not wear it again.

Reality dawned on me when I realized I needed a blue shoe for my outfit (oh sorry I didn't tell you the shoe was blue) and it was already too late as I did not plan an alternative for the occasion even when I had told myself I was not going to wear it.

So I was left with the option of not going for the occasion or just wearing that shoe, not minding who will be wearing it with me (what a mindset)

The occasion was too important to me that a shoe could not stop me from going, so I came up with a plan C I said I could also be unique and wear a color that goes with the dress, everybody in the occasion will be wearing a blue shoe so let me wear a different color (where on earth did this come from?).

Okay, now you are thinking I am confused but then I actually was very confused because I fought with not doing what I wanted because of the crowd and that was just the major confusion of a life time.

To wrap it up, I went to the blue event with a red shoe that I normally would not have thought of wearing  so I basically did not like my outfit but then I felt good because I was not conforming to what others did(lol) and at that event I was consciously looking at the blue shoes to see if my look alike was there but to my own foolishness it was not there.

So, I had a major loss and that loss was to Self.

And I had to learn this "Never try to feel Unique from the crowd at the detriment of your True Self".

And from that day I told myself I would rather do what soothes me not minding what happens than do what soothes the crowd, either to be unique or as a form of non-conformity.

Now the question goes like this?

Are you still that me that would rather not do something because you are trying to be different from the crowd,at the expense of what you love?
OR
Are you that me that will make the decision to do what is best for you and what you love?

Your uniqueness starts from being original, nobody has your style, nobody can be you. Even if a million and one people are doing a particular thing always tell yourself that they are not "YOU" . If not for anything they do not have your face.

Your look already makes you different and your true self might just be the one the world has been waiting for.

How do you achieve this by connecting to your core value and passion.
 
Quit Non-conformity and stick to True self, that's where your value lies.

Wishing you a very happy Easter. Celebrate in your true Self.

When Life Gives You Lemons, Do not Make A Lemonade

This seems to be the very popular saying "when life gives you lemons, make lemonades.

Totally amazing but guess I tried experimenting it and realized you could do more than a lemonade.

Most people even get to recite this as a poem without even knowing the actual application to reality, Oh well, I was one of those people, who casually just made use of the sentence in a conversation.

But until life gives you lemons, that exactly is when this makes a whole lot of sense.

If you are to be stuck in a job, not loving what you do, like me back then.

Not knowing how to get out of the job or out of my forever unsettled thoughts and mental battles.

I guess this is normal with most people, but unlike myself I decided to think after noticing that I was getting consolations but no solution.

I had huge lemons in front of me, not liking what I do,  always worn out in the stress of doing what is not fulfilling , beginning to start hating myself and battle with so much unhappiness, all these were lemons, very bitter ones at that.

Then I tried making lemonade.  A Lemonade is a drink, it helps you to stay refreshed but for a while.

So I started making my lemonade out of my lemon by trying to tell people how I felt and sharing my experience with them. I got a very refreshing experience because I lost count of the times I kept hearing, "Oh dear, that's so sad, I know how that feels" , a few went ahead to say, "you should try doing something about it" . Very amazing advises, I felt refreshed for the period and believed YES I can get through all of this.

But more often than not, when we are refreshed, it only keeps us bubbling for a while and then the issues come back again.

Sooo... I went further and decided to do something else with the Lemons life had given me and what was that?

This brings my own theory,

When life gives you lemons, extract the seeds and plant them.

Why?

Because then it has more use.

I decided to find a way out of my predicament by not just making lemonades and getting refreshed but extracting the seeds of the lemons and that was by carefully sorting out what my issue was,

Why did I not love my job? , what exactly do I want to do"? Then I started watering the seed by studying and finding out ways to achieve a better mindset and improve on that which I want to do.

Mind you, lemons leave you devastated and feeling depressed, so here was I having extracted the seeds from the lemons, I planted them and started watering them by finding my thoughts right and working towards that which I loved and in return I had a tree of fulfillment.

That tree in turn can now be of good use to people because then I can now share my experience rather than feel refreshed I give someone something to learn.

When you make a tree from your lemons, you open opportunity for people to benefit from it.

-By either selling fruits from your tree: Sharing your experiences, people learn and get to do what they love that will in turn be profitable or
-Using it as a form of shelter, share your experiences, people learn and know they are not alone and want to be the best of themselves.

By this you are making a lifelong impact with your lemons, than a for the minute refreshment.

So what exactly are you going to start doing? Make Lemons or Plant a tree? Let us here from you in the comment section below. 

Positive Thinking a Major "PLUS" To Your Life Transformation.

How does it feel to always live with smiles on your face? Is it actually possible?

It definitely is possible if we believe.

How do we believe?  By constantly and consciously feeding our thoughts with the positives rather than the negatives.

Do you know what positive people are always thinking? I will tell you a few.

The best of their today in relative to the best of their tomorrow. They are individuals who sign  up for call to actions than  rather watch the actions.

I remember when I used to be a Naysayer but realized it was taking me nowhere and decided to take the part of saying Nay to only Negative thoughts and made it a habit of keeping only the positives, I am still a work in progress.

Rather than complain of what you see, replace the complaints with the amazing thoughts of what you want to see, in that sense you find yourself working towards the beauty of the future.

How then can we consciously stay positive:

How I learnt to overcome the turbulence in Relationships: The secret of the foundation.

I hear people say I do not like how my relationship is going, this was not how it started so what has gone wrong?

Sometimes just when you think the foundation is right and the process is wrong, it could possibly be the other way round.

It is not wrong to feel a twist in the journey of a relationship. I once had a relationship in which I did not know the major reasons why I wanted to be in the relationship, but guess I was just naive, guess because of how much I thought I understood love and not wanting to feel lonely I dived into one.

If I was asked the questions I will be asking you now,I guess it would have been a lot easier for me.

Why are you going into a relationship? What do you hope to achieve from it?, Do you see your partner as one who will help you achieve that future you picture?

All these questions are the basics for the foundation of a relationship.

Just like the mansion you hope to see standing someday, before you start building, there are major questions you will ask just to ensure the house does not collapse the next year.

Same thing happens in a relationship. When I got in, I just wanted to avoid being lonely, I just enjoyed the feel of having to be in a relationship. But just like you, the journey started dangling, dangling, it was shaky, like a flight going through a major turbulence, quarrels, argument, happiness reduced, I did not know what was wrong but all I could just think of was God, let this cup pass over me.

I did not know what to do then, so I tried applying just one technique and that was inviting the big "C"

It is absolutely normal for the turbulence to come, especially when the beginning was not defined, but as a pilot you should be able to control the turbulence, these turbulence occurs because over time your priority became clearer to you and you started noticing the wrongs in your relationships, automatically when your partner tells you let us go out, you start saying why are
we always going out, can't we just stay indoors? It is normal.

This is not so terrible because it is normal that as we grow, we get clearer understanding of what we want.

How then can this be handled?

Just like me, you need to invite Big "C" "COMMUNICATION"

Rather than keep complaining about how things have changed, start communicating.

Now you have your priorities clear, sit with your partner and discuss.

If you do not communicate you and your partner might just be living separate lives and believing you are both doing your best to make things work, but then you have not done anything at all.

And to those who are yet to get into one, you are still opportuned to lay your foundation right, set your priorities and discuss it with the friend who wants to graduate to the next level, gone are the days of being like me.

Make your life easier and set it right.

Persistence: The Toddler's Theory

I have a baby nephew and I must say, I am learning a whole lot from him. And one of these amazing characters I have learnt from him is persistence.

“You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it.” Maya Angelou

Toddlers in their very beautiful look and beautiful heart as well tend to teach us little things we do not know but we can only learn this if we take out time to understand we can learn from everyone around us and even the toddlers are not left out. I learnt a life transforming lesson from my nephew.

No Stopping Now

In life, the challenges you see are definitely gateways to success.

This post is a plan B of what I was originally supposed to put up today. I had this vision for a while now and I have been fighting the fear of how will I start.

What do I do first, but after several consultations of coaches and all, I still could not conquer(we suffer what we teach) but then there was this push inside of me to go ahead and just start somewhere, I created a facebook group.

I started the process and even completed it. Welcomed the new members to the group but then after a few shares, I went back to the group page and I could not view the page again and it was gone, like completely gone, I  could not view anything there again.

This still looked like a surprise to me. I continued trying, logged off and In again and then I realized it was reality.

What was I supposed to do, be sad, be bothered, I even got the feeling of deleting the group, but I could not. Then I sort the professionals of professionals that I have as my friends but they could not help out, until eventually one said this is kind of weird but send a message to facebook reporting the problem, oh well, I have done that and if I do not get a reply on time, guess what I am going to do?

I will open another one.

Its just in my head and I am wondering, why, but I definitely cannot keep dining on the why's, I am rather moving on to keep studying, when that is sorted, I will come back loaded to commence.

I shared this story of my fears with someone and the person goes, can you be scared, even as you tell people not to be scared. Oh yes! I can, I am human, nothing stops me from being scared, as much as I write does not make me perfect. I am still in the school of life, I have a very long way to go.

So today I am here to leave you all with two advices:

- Never think you are a complete write-off: When you look at people smiling all the time, make up on fleek, picture on fleek and you ask yourself, what is wrong with me? The answer is, Nothing is wrong with you, we all face fears, we all have that thing which scares us but the ability to walk through the fire and come out strong is what makes everyone different. Whatever level you are now is a phase you will get through.

- Do not let the obstacles stop you: Life is more like running a hurdle race, I have asked this before, if you were put on a track for a hurdle and you get to the first obstacle will you stop the race and turn back? Not at all. That is how life is, nobody promised life will be a bed of roses, even roses have thorns, the obstacles in life will definitely come, but looking beyond them and looking forward to the prize is what matters.

How Much Value Do You Place On Yourself?

On a round table discussing with friends and then the question comes up, why have ladies sold themselves for cheap to guys? And people went on and on saying different things, but then my answer to this, “Girls do not sell themselves for cheap, they give themselves out according to the value they have placed on themselves”. It could be anybody but those who decide to be disciplined are not just disciplined because they want to, they are disciplined because they have placed a high value on themselves and have decided they would not settle for less.

Not every less privileged girl is a prostitute and not every prostitute is less privileged, some less privileged have chosen to work hard, hawk and sell to see themselves through school and the 9-5 well paid has told herself that she needs to do more to look prettier and dress better, but most of them even get less paid by the men than what they earn.

But the question is why does this happen? it is because the lady who has not gone to school knows that she owes it to herself to make her world better but the 9-5 lady decides that she owes it to herself to impress the world.

Which do we stand for, do we owe our existence to the world or do we owe it to our friends who we choose to impress?

Your answer determines how much value you place on yourself.

New Year Tidings : One Month, One Character Challenge.

Hello my darlingssssss, Happy happy new year....It feels like I haven't been here since like forever, Since I last met with you all in 2015.. Happy New Year once again.. I feel the ginger in the air as I know that this year we are all climbing the ladder of success and I know nobody will be left behind.

In this new year, I will be ushering us with a challenge, one I titled ONE MONTH, ONE CHARACTER Challenge.

What exactly does it mean? I know must of us have goals written down for the year, a  long list we have to conquer but some factors can hinder the fulfilment of those goals, some of which include, Character which is the number one, the number show spoiler for so many people.

Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved.
Helen Keller

This challenge is actually going to be a one month thing, I know you are wondering why should I be doing a character challenge for one month, but it is for the Art of Mastery, for the character to automatically be a part of you, you have to keep doing it. I know some of you will be saying, this one is punishment but then how long is a month? just 30/31 days.

So this challenge is easy I must say, I am actually going to do it myself and I believe it is very necessary for the year.

I have here my list of Character traits I need to work on every month for myself and if you will want to join me, I will be glaaaaaad to have you on board and if you want to make your own list, that is fine too, but please ensure you do. So here is my list:

January : Diligence

February : Love (Not because it is Valentine ooo)

March : Joy

April : Peace

May : Patience

June:  Kindness

July : Meekness/Humility

August :Faith

September : Self-Control

October : Confidence/Boldness

November : Servanthood (Church)

December : Appreciation.

Yes yes, this is my liiiiissstt, I am excited to be doing this. 12/12, I pray to get a pass mark at the end of the day.

So my first character challenge for this month is Diligence:

What Is Diligence?

Diligence is steadfast application, assiduousness and industry; the virtue of hard work.

It is one of the seven heavenly virtues.

Diligence in Christianity (my religion)

Diligence, in Christianity, is the effort to do one's part, while keeping faith and reliance in God.

In other words, diligence and faith are two sides of a mystery. One doesn’t know how, despite one's effort, it all works out. But diligence when combined with faith assures spiritual success. Diligence as one of seven virtues describes thoroughness, completeness and persistence of an action, particularly in matters of faith. 

Diligence to the very end, makes your hope sure. We do not want to become lazy, but to imitate those who through faith and patience inherit what has been promised.

— The Bible,

Diligence in one word means Commitment.

So yes yes o, that is what I will be working on this month.
I want to be able to:
Keep to time, fulfill promises, keep up with task and appointments (God help me) and lots more I need to be committed to.

What do I want achieve(make sure you write out what you want to achieve):

Consistency
Focus
Godly life
And a new good character

It is possible and I know we can do this.

We have to swim in Abundance this year and nothing can stop us, not even CHARACTER.

I will be glad to see your list in the comment below or your January Character Goal. Let's do this.

Remember that I Believe in You...

Break the chains, set yourself free

If love fails, set yourself free, let your heart spread its wings and fly again. Remember you may find love and lose it, but when love dies, you never have to die with it. -Ritu Ghatourey

Hello Lovelies, how are we today? I am sure the week has been going real great. Mine has been amazing and please feel free to share your experiences below, the good, bad and ugly.

Today, I will be discussing about setting yourself free. In the ladder of personal development, personal freedom has been ranked as the highest thing that hold people down from becoming the best of themselves.

What do I mean by personal freedom, personal freedom is setting yourself free from factors that tend to weigh you down, examples of this factors include, guilt, shame, anger, envy and lots more.

How much longer do you want to keep crucifying yourself, how much longer do you intend to live in agony? anything that holds us down is what we refer to as living in chains. One does not have to be behind the prison walls to know you are in chains, leaving a life full of pains, hatred, anger and lots more is more or less living in chains.

Are you wondering whether this is true? Let's do a quick review, how do you feel when you see that friend who hurt you in past years (let's take it like 3 years back)? Do you feel comfortable hanging around or you just automatically get irritated? If you cannot live free around your environment because of one factor then you are living in chains.

How do you set yourself free?

Make the Decision

This is the first step you have to take to make yourself free. I definitely cannot help you decide on how best to live, I can only advice but I cannot force you to do anything, you have to make the decision to set yourself free.

" Tell yourself it is time to break loose from these chains"

That is the first step to freedom.

Ask God for Help

Setting yourself free is something you cannot do alone, why? because when you make the decision, it takes God's backing to hold on to the decision of freeing yourself and not falling back to where you started, we also need God's help because some decisions need a lot of courage and an in-depth spirit of forgiveness which only God gives.

Talk It Over

Speak to whoever has wronged you, put your courage together and let the person know what he/she did was wrong, some people do not know their faults, people are different, until you speak some people might not understand. 

Learn to Forgive

They are two people to forgive here; 1) The person who has made you feel bad  in whatsoever way and 2) Yourself, you have to forgive yourself of whatsoever anger, hatred, regrets and shame, you are better than who you were yesterday.

Open your Heart to Love even more

Love! Love!! Love!!! Open your heart and make the decision to love whoever or whatever hurt you. Love conquers all. Love even more. 

Last but not the least

Flip unto a new Page

Now that you have the chains off, it is time to start writing your new story of Joy, happiness, love and laughter. It is a story worth writing and a life worth reading.

As I type this I feel it heavy in my heart that I am speaking to someone out there. It might not be so easy to forgive but go through these steps. Do not be jailed in this interesting life. 

As we step into the new year let us begin to flip to new pages, let's go, forgive, love and be happy. 

I know you can do it.

Always remember I BELIEVE IN YOU.

Moments Of Inspiration: PUTTING OFF PROCRASTINATION

If I got a dollar for each time I put off doing something when I ought to do it … mehn… I probably wouldn’t have a single dollar! Because knowing me, I’d put off actually collecting the money until it became too late. Yep, procrastination is one of the bad things I’m unfortunately good at.

Simply put, procrastination is not doing what you what you are supposed to do when you are supposed to do it, and without a valid reason for the delay. See eh, procrastination is TERRIBLE. I’ve lost more opportunities, friendships, money, even food sef than I care to count, all because I kept procrastinating. I’m currently fighting myself on this procrastination issue. It’s an intense, minute-by-minute battle and I thought to share what I’ve learnt so far.

The first step to dealing with procrastination is to give the excuses and blame games a rest. Accept responsibility for your actions. Change begins when you acknowledge that even if the electricity had not gone off, you probably would not have written that article because you would have become so tired, hungry or something.

A broken bone isn't a broken mind.

                                

Hello lovelies, how was your week? You see that girl in that picture is feeling very strong in her bones (speaking with faith) after a very very stressful week, my goodness!!! but then we thank God and what can stop me from having my smoothie? not even a broken bone. I virtually broke all of my blogging schedules this week and I sincerely apologise. Next week will definitely be better. 

Today I will be discussing about the mind, using myself as a living example, so as to make you understand you are not alone. We have discussed self love a lot, now let's move to the next phase of getting you motivated and keeping your positivism alive. 

The mind, the bedrock of good and evil. That's how I see it. Before we act, it arises first from the mind, even though a few of us do not think before we act, not thinking does not mean it was not in the mind. The mind is a store room where you store love, hatred, joy and sadness, today I ask you what do you have in your store(mind)? 

Relating to the topic, I stated earlier that my bones are very strong, I feel too tired to even move a feet but have I decided to store that? If I keep in mind that my body is weak, then automatically I feel completely weak and that will lead me to want to stay in bed, then it continues and next thing I start saying I am running temperature, I feel funny e.t.c . The theory/truth about the mind is simple and that is one thought in mind leads to another and a million more.

MONDAY INSPIRATION: RISKING IT ALL

Hello Lovelies!! *in Uju's voice* lol. Actually she's super busy this morning so i decided to post on her behalf even though i might be dead after this, lol! but who cares, right?! as far as i get to touch someone's life today

I came across this quote and it got me thinking “SOMETIMES YOU HAVE TO RISK IT ALL FOR A DREAM ONLY YOU CAN SEE”. This is actually a quote we can relate to as if you check when you were young you had dreams like wanting to be the best gymnast, photographer, singer and so on but  along the line we were swayed off by our environment, parents, friends and even ourselves.

But I want to tell you today that its not late to dust off that dream no matter how silly it may sound and start working towards it. You owe yourself that happiness and you owe the world that impact.

I know it will be really hard but it’s not impossible, I know you will be discouraged by your friends, your family and even your loved ones like your partner but sometimes you have to risk it all for a dream only you can see and I promise you, you won’t regret the decision. Funny enough, when you start thriving in that dream, the same people that discouraged and laughed at you will start singing your praises and identifying with you, lol! I know right! That’s life for you

I want to charge you today, what is that thing you have always wanted to do which sounds ridiculous and everyone you told laughed at you or talked you out of it so you stopped sharing it with people and you even stopped dreaming it, Its high time you ignore all those discouragement and encourage yourself because if you can dream it, you can accomplish it.

Please share your dreams and what you are doing about making it a reality in the comment box below

Have a wonderful week and remain blessed, Cheers!!

Because I'm happy

Hello lovelies, hi hi..*hiding in my closet to type this post* as I am breaking my blogging schedule. But I just had to *am sorry* BECAUSE I AM HAPPY :))))))).

Yaay! It feels so good to be happy, it is a period of jumping around, smiling away, feeling beautiful, feeling like you do not have worries at the time and you are just living.

But then I wonder why can't this just be everyday *sighs*

Your happiness can only be everyday if you CHOOSE to make it so.

Guess someone is feeling as excited like myself, if yes ask yourself what actually made you happy today and why cant it happen every day.

Happiness is a choice, it is not bought with money, it is not said in words but it comes from Within. It comes from your inside.

The only place you loose happiness is within you and the only place you also find happiness is within you.

It is your sole option to decide to know the things that get at you and things that you let go. Most people have lost their happiness because they pick at everything, everyone says to them at every time. Kilode? Haba!!!  Why so angry?.

Life is a walk way o, why not decide to catwalk so that others will see. Make people vex instead of making yourself vex. When people try to get at you ignore the depth of their words and give a smile in return. (NOT SO EASY THOUGH, BUT IT IS POSSIBLE AND YOU WILL NEVER KNOW UNTIL YOU TRY)

Some people are just set on a mission to annoy and a number of us are also receptive of their annoying self. It really should not be that way.

Think deep about this:

Whatever negative word people say to you does not determine the outcome of your life.

If that is so why waste time on what does not really matter, when you can be happy, jumpy, singing and clapping and working towards that mega future...

So are you ready to make everyday a happy day. Be the happiness virus carrier.

So if yes...lets dance together.....Where is Pharell?..  PHARELLLL!!! Oh here he goes....

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Stay happy always. LOoooove you loads. Yes you!!!

Monday Inspiration: Who do you love? What are you doing about it?

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Hello lovelies, sure the weekend went well. It was quite occupied for me but then my checklist was completed, sure you completed yours.

It is a new week and today I will be speaking about spreading love even in the busiest of times.

The question goes, who do you love and what are you doing about it? Most it be christmas or valentine's day for you to show  how much you love someone?

Take some time to show people you love them this week. Go out of your way a little, call your loved ones, call your mum who feels my son/daughter doesn't call me by  this time of the week, call at a very odd hour and make her know you called to check on her and so on. Surprise them.

Make your loved ones and those whom you love smile. For some of us who are not used to it, its a conscious effort and decision. I have to do this too.

I know you are busy, you have your task so full, you have your desk full with sheets of papers, all calling your name, but then you have that loved one out there who you can make last longer with a call that will make the person smile.

Send a gift across, if necessary. Give a surprise lunch, get lunch for a colleague or a friend.

Show people you love them and that they can be loved.

Extend this arm of love to the people on the street. The act of love/kindness to those on the street always goes with a prayer *GOD BLESS YOU* this prayer seems random but said from the heart goes a long way.

Share a smile, c'mon life is not that serious. :)

And to those who you love from your heart never forget to tell them how much you love them all through this week. An additional smile you bring to the face of one can increase their lifespan.


From me to you: I love you my amazing reader. You are a blessing to me.

Have an amazing week.

A Date with Boldness

It has been an amazing week, I must say. Work, play, laugh, smiles and blessings. Above all the week was productive I assume for all of us right? I pray I am not wrong.

Yeah as the week comes to a close it's time for weekend hangout, weekend fun, parties, owambe and the likes. As you go on these journeys never forget to go on a date with Boldness.

What does it mean to be Bold?

Not hesitating or fearful in the face of actual or possible danger be courageous and daring.

 “If ever you feel like an animal among men, be a lion.”
― Criss Jami 

Do not let others influence your thoughts or actions in the wrong way.

Speak out when necessary and do not let anyone make you say what you ought not to or do what you do not want to.

A date with boldness will be very necessary because boldness will tell you how to be who you are and not what others want you to be.

It is your decision to be the best of yourself and then you get to be appreciated, loved for being who you are.

No one except God has the ability to make you fail or make you succeed. Do not compromise your person for the exchange of promises.

It is up to you and me to stay bold and stay positive because the life we live is the secret to the joy we express.

Above all be bold in Christ, because in Christ you are solidified and nothing, I mean nothing can harm you.

2 Timothy 1:7 - For God did not give us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of self-control.

The weekend is beautiful that I can see and please any Owambe/occasion around you please do not forget to invite me. :)

Have an amazing weekend and thank God it's Friday.