Aligning your thoughts for a Happier You

Research has shown that 40% of our happiness comes from our thoughts and actions, which also mean that they are dependent on what we can take control of.

You can not imagine how much your thoughts limits you, it is as important as the steps we take everyday.

The things we think act as a block to our level of success and hence reduces our ability for all round success. Is this true?

I recently conducted a Q & A session trying to find out what makes people unhappy, I expected to see Financial crisis at the top of the list but then I got answers that had about 50% on Self, 40% on family, relationship and about 10% on financial crisis and the economy.

This goes a long way to further explain how we are products of what we think. Let us take a few of Self-Imposed thought actions:

- Sadness: I personally refer to sadness as the downtime of a person, leading to the inability to express Joy. Let us relate this to our technology, when they say there is a down time in our network, this simply states that some internal factors have gone low hence leading to interruption in the outward result of the network, the down time is from the back-end, so also is sadness a result of the back-end. The back-end in this case refers to our thoughts.

If you notice, you do not get sad in a second, you often get sad after a period of time and it starts with a frown, meaning that you actually sat and thought about the situation hence you got deeper into it and it caused a down time.

- Depression: This can be as a result of compound forces, which include but to mention a few, hatred, sadness, anger e.t.c. The ultimate effect of depression is the thought of Suicide.

The compound factors of hatred, sadness, anger are also from the back-end, which is your thought.

The uniqueness of our thoughts is that we are in CONTROL.

Guess you never thought about that.

How then do we align our thoughts towards happiness?

-Accept that you have the wrong thoughts
-Look for what revives your positive being (Personally songs and words of affirmation do it for me)
-Saturate your thoughts with everything positive, rather than think of who hurt you, think of who gave you that ultimate compliment (maybe not a compliment but who made you smile).

Does this happen in a day? Obviously not. It is a daily effort.

So let me hear from you, what did you struggle with? Anger, fear, depression or any other and let us know how you got through them.

"You Ought to be nothing but Happy"

FOLLOWING TRENDS AND HOW IT AFFECTS OUR HAPPINESS.

Most people tend to be extremely happy when the weekend arrives, is it because they are going to have a restful time and time off work or is it because everybody is saying thank God it's friday.

I have been going through the program with Steph Obi and I will be sharing lessons from her every tuesday. 

How does following the trend affect your happiness?

Most times we tend to want to achieve things because we see others do it and hence it affects us and causes us to feel depressed.

Better Your Act

How was your valentine day celebration?  It is just a day past valentine and everybody or most people obviously have their amazing stories. I had mine too.

This week looks really good, as I will be starting a three month's workshop with Stephanie Obi tagged the 7 Figure Online Business, my amazing coach, you can read about her on www.stephobi.com.

I registered for this workshop for 2 major reasons:

- To Master my act
- To Better my act.

There are lots more though...

It is essential in the level of progress for one to seek for more insight on a particular subject matter, to better yourself in one area of specialization.

Every individual should take part in being the better version of themselves. It is a conscious decision. You cannot be the best of yourself without taking conscious efforts to making that happen.

The little I know, nothing stops me from making it better and that which I am yet to learn nothing stops me from learning it.

Most of us tend to be limited by a few factors(including me) which include:
-Time  and Money.

But as it is said, "If you want something, you must sacrifice something else". Some of us make sacrifices of building our savings and starving so as to have a wardrobe full of clothes, that is awesome because asides having a beautiful wardrobe you are teaching yourself to be a lot more disciplined.

We can also make same sacrifice to better our act by Proper planning. Plan your time, plan your money.

That contract you need might just require that certification you have been ignoring and that your business might just require that leadership course you have always looked at and ignore. For a company to promote people in often times they conduct a training and write exams, that is because they want nothing but the best.

You are in charge of what level you attain, God has blessed us, he will not come from above to give you success, he can only make men favour you but you must be capable of the task, as he will not give you a task he knows you are not prepared for and how do you prepare yourself , by putting all you have to do in place.

Make that conscious decision to better an act. Whatsoever be the act. It could be in cooking, try a different dish, it could be in your area of career choose to read a book or two in relative to that, you could purchase or download an e-copy, whatever be the case learn to better your act. The
The Workshop I am having I will try sharing as much as I can here with my online family. But I believe it is going to be an amazing time.

Remember to better yourself in something this week, do not settle for better, head on for best and it can only happen with YOU.

Think about what you want to achieve.


I will love to hear from you in the comment section below, what activities will you like to better this week and what challengers do you think will;; stop you from achieving it?

3 Things I wished I knew before now.

A lot has happened in recent times that has made me wonder when will reality come or is it still coming.

From childhood till growing up, it has been a phase of progression, downsizing, sad, happy and all moments curbed in one atmosphere. You wake up to different sounds, words, stories and it keeps you always on the journey of your memory lane.

But then, I stay grateful for today because as much as I wished I knew them then, I am also grateful I know them now.

That is the basic principle of appreciation, I still bite my fingers any time I have to hear something I thought I should have known but ignored. So here are a few things I wished I knew before now:

How to Overcome the Fear of I am not smart enough.

I had a one-on-one session with a client, and we discussed all he does, being a very interesting person, he listed a few which include,

-Motivational education
-Radio Shows
-Project Manager at an engineering firm 

He says all I want to do is SUCCEED but I have not moved higher because I am scared of not being smart enough to make a larger impact and I doubt myself sometimes".

I smiled because this sounded like my previous self.

I asked who do you think is intelligent enough, give me a few names?

And he goes quiet.

I want to share my advice with you that helped my client double up on and made his eyes pop (in his own words).

The secret is that "the people we believe are the best also have the greatest fear in themselves"

Like Marie Forleo said during her session with Todd 

I still live in the fear of hoping my message passes the right help to people and hoping I do not run out on messages.

Persistence: The Toddler's Theory

I have a baby nephew and I must say, I am learning a whole lot from him. And one of these amazing characters I have learnt from him is persistence.

“You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it.” Maya Angelou

Toddlers in their very beautiful look and beautiful heart as well tend to teach us little things we do not know but we can only learn this if we take out time to understand we can learn from everyone around us and even the toddlers are not left out. I learnt a life transforming lesson from my nephew.

You Give the World What You Want Them To Say About You

It has never been said of a lion that he is a goat, even if he tries to wear the skin of a goat, his character will definitely still sell him off.

I have grown to discover that most of the things that people say about us are things that we give them permission to say, maybe from a previous act of ours or something.

I had to go for a program one day and I needed to obviously dress official, but then guess I dressed too official and after that meeting I was asked if I attended one leadership program, that my face looked very familiar, it took me the whole world to get these people convinced that I had never even heard of this program.

Thinking I had done my best in convincing them, some days later on my way to work I met the person who anchored the program and a friend of his and he said, this Lady came for my program and she claims she did not attend the Day Star Leadership program and the friend goes, really? it is possible she didn't, maybe it is just her corporate looks that is actually making you guys feel she did.

And then it got to me, that you actually give the world what you want them to say about you, there might be those who are out there to gossip, but if you are you, out of a population of 5 Gossips, one must say, No! I think this lady or this guy is not that way.

There are two major things that get people making statements of you:

New Month Tidings: One Month, One Character Challenge

It is a new month and everyone seems to identify this month as the month of love, all thanks to St. Valentine.

Happy new month to my online family and I am sure January went real good for most of us, because it did for me.

In this new month we are going to be keeping up with our one month one character challenge, addressing one character, one month at a time.

In January, Mine was Diligence, what was yours?

Most of us might not understand why this character challenge is actually an important one. I feel character is a major asset that everyone should actually have the right measure, no one is perfect but then one must not be a write off when it comes to character. I actually did appreciate the Diligence I worked on in the month of January because it helped me in the following ways:

- To stay committed to activities
- To avoid procrastination.
- To be on time
- To make a promise and work towards keeping it.

These I could actually say I was a bit of a write-off before but now I guess I am getting pretty much better. I had people follow up with me and then I had my people here too keeping tabs on me.

The best way to make a challenge and keep it going for yourself is to try creating an accountability group for yourself, how does this work?