The Battle Is Not Yours

Why try to be a warrior in a war that originally was not designed to be fought by you.

Hello lovelies, how are we doing today? I must say some times we fight with who and what we are not supposed to fight with. We struggle with what originally is supposed to come to us really easy.

Why have you let the worries of life, make you give up on yourself?,  when Christ has said, cast all of your cares on me.

Why make yourself feel like no one on earth loves you?  when your creator has shown you so much love by sending His ONLY begotten son to die for you.

Why feel depressed when men promise and fail? when from inception it has been clearly stated that ONLY God is perfect.

Why feel like things are changing for the worse? how can you forget so soon, the God of the good times that He is still the same yesterday, today and forever, all you need to do is call.

Why have you decided to sell your happiness at no cost? when your strength lies in the Joy of the Lord.

Why then have you chosen to fight that battle with your physical strength?
forgetting that the Battle is the Lord's.

All of these are the promises of the only true, perfect, never failing God.

If you knew how much He so loved you that He does not even want you to hurt your feet on a stone, then you will make it a duty of casting all your burdens on Him because He always cares for you.

The battle is not yours, but the Lord's.

No Stopping Now

In life, the challenges you see are definitely gateways to success.

This post is a plan B of what I was originally supposed to put up today. I had this vision for a while now and I have been fighting the fear of how will I start.

What do I do first, but after several consultations of coaches and all, I still could not conquer(we suffer what we teach) but then there was this push inside of me to go ahead and just start somewhere, I created a facebook group.

I started the process and even completed it. Welcomed the new members to the group but then after a few shares, I went back to the group page and I could not view the page again and it was gone, like completely gone, I  could not view anything there again.

This still looked like a surprise to me. I continued trying, logged off and In again and then I realized it was reality.

What was I supposed to do, be sad, be bothered, I even got the feeling of deleting the group, but I could not. Then I sort the professionals of professionals that I have as my friends but they could not help out, until eventually one said this is kind of weird but send a message to facebook reporting the problem, oh well, I have done that and if I do not get a reply on time, guess what I am going to do?

I will open another one.

Its just in my head and I am wondering, why, but I definitely cannot keep dining on the why's, I am rather moving on to keep studying, when that is sorted, I will come back loaded to commence.

I shared this story of my fears with someone and the person goes, can you be scared, even as you tell people not to be scared. Oh yes! I can, I am human, nothing stops me from being scared, as much as I write does not make me perfect. I am still in the school of life, I have a very long way to go.

So today I am here to leave you all with two advices:

- Never think you are a complete write-off: When you look at people smiling all the time, make up on fleek, picture on fleek and you ask yourself, what is wrong with me? The answer is, Nothing is wrong with you, we all face fears, we all have that thing which scares us but the ability to walk through the fire and come out strong is what makes everyone different. Whatever level you are now is a phase you will get through.

- Do not let the obstacles stop you: Life is more like running a hurdle race, I have asked this before, if you were put on a track for a hurdle and you get to the first obstacle will you stop the race and turn back? Not at all. That is how life is, nobody promised life will be a bed of roses, even roses have thorns, the obstacles in life will definitely come, but looking beyond them and looking forward to the prize is what matters.

Reminder: One Month, One #Challenge

Hello Royalties, how are we doing this week.

This is just a follow up to find out how we have been doing with the One Month, One Character #Challenge, just incase you were not aware of what it was, kindly find it here.

I have been working on diligence and I must say, the inner man just makes me get up and work even when I do not feel like, because I know it is something I have challenged myself to do.

A challenge is a stretch of yourself, it automatically quickens your subconscious, if and only if you put your heart to it.

This is going to be on through out the year, but I just feel, if we must start, then lets start right.

Its left to you to choose which character you want to work on, but then please do not let this month pass you by without starting yours.

Thanks to a wonderful friend who decided to join me on this challenge and spread the news.. Lets hear what Blessing has to say in the video below

 

Let us hear your success story in the comment box below and if you have any challenges joining this challenge, please do not hesitate letting me know and if you need a daily follow up, I sure will be glad to help.

How Much Value Do You Place On Yourself?

On a round table discussing with friends and then the question comes up, why have ladies sold themselves for cheap to guys? And people went on and on saying different things, but then my answer to this, “Girls do not sell themselves for cheap, they give themselves out according to the value they have placed on themselves”. It could be anybody but those who decide to be disciplined are not just disciplined because they want to, they are disciplined because they have placed a high value on themselves and have decided they would not settle for less.

Not every less privileged girl is a prostitute and not every prostitute is less privileged, some less privileged have chosen to work hard, hawk and sell to see themselves through school and the 9-5 well paid has told herself that she needs to do more to look prettier and dress better, but most of them even get less paid by the men than what they earn.

But the question is why does this happen? it is because the lady who has not gone to school knows that she owes it to herself to make her world better but the 9-5 lady decides that she owes it to herself to impress the world.

Which do we stand for, do we owe our existence to the world or do we owe it to our friends who we choose to impress?

Your answer determines how much value you place on yourself.

Monday Inspiration: Confidence

Confidence is having confidence in oneself. Favourite quotes on confidence.

#DEARSINGLELADY (RELATIONSHIP AND BUSINESS ADVICE)

Hello amazing people. How are we doing this weekend? See those killer smiles, from us to you. You know this bible saying, He who walks with wise men will be wise, But the companion of fools will suffer harm. Indeed this scripture is a blessing.

I was privileged to be in the gathering of wise ladies, Tope the architect, Lynda Iheanachor the Real Estate Lady, Esohe the Brand Analyst, Sharon the Academy Dean of The Elocution, Etiquette and Ethics Academy,May Henshaw, Asam the customer service coach and the Empress Steph Obi the Marketing and Business Coach.

Steph Obi(get used to this name, you might just be hearing it often) a great woman, a world changer, got a few ladies invited to her house and I was privileged to be one of them for a round table discussion on business and marriage as taught by Mrs. Ibukun Awosika. It was a very impactful segment and I decided to share a few points I learnt. I will be sharing this for my single sisters but there is also the discussion of Newlyweds and Married people.

For the single sisters they are:

- Before getting married, you have to find yourself(know who you are, what exactly you are called to do on earth) - This is very important because if you have not found yourself, you may not know how to find a partner, it lays a foundation for the type of partner you would want to get married to, you search will be defined. You will definitely be in a position of finding the one who will be your support and vice-versa, who will encourage you to be the best of yourself and who will be your backbone.

- The single period of your life is not for you to regret your past but to reflect on what the future should be like: Invest your time in defining what choices you have to make, it is a period of finding out who you are, making decisions especially in business and knowing your stand and taking decisions for the future.

- Money is nothing: Money should not be your criteria for choosing your spouse, money will definitely come, if you know where you are going and your spouse does too, remember not every guy who drives a range rover owns a range rover, some of them are daddy's properties and daddy's property is not son's property, so please do not be deceived but all the flashes, a hardworking man with a vision has never been the wrong choice and if you are wondering how, a conversation does the magic.

- You owe it to yourself to choose a man who has got your back: Never live with the fear of if he goes will someone better come, as long as you know your values and your rules then do not be afraid because a thousand cattle on the hills are owned by God so if one cattle goes, God still has another for you.

- Set your priorities right: Do not choose a partner because you are believing you will change his bad habits to soothe the habits you have in your head. Lai Lai, be patient the right one will come. If you have set your priorities to be marry a God fearing husband, one who would make you grow in faith, stay on that, you will find him.

- Do not start what you cannot finish- When you finally start courting or in your early stages of marriage do not live a lifestyle you cannot pursue to the end. You know you are a career woman, do not start giving him breakfast in bed, fresh food and the likes when you are dating or newly married, be yourself, because the day you stop, he will say you have changed.

Your responsibilities in life are  YOUR LIFE<->WIFE<->MOTHER

Try to play each role well.

These are the few I can give here, there is also the segment for the Married women in business, how to run a successful home as a business woman, especially an established one and if you feel you married the wrong man she teaches on ways to make amends.

It was hours of wisdom. It simply tells you that life is intertwined, you need a successful home to run a successful business and climb the ladder of success.

There is a whole lot that was taught but I will be sharing them as often as I can.

Have an amazing weekend. 

I will definitely love to hear your thoughts, please drop a message in the comment box. Thank you.

Moments of Inspiration: Live for You

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In this world we love competition, most times they put us out of line which definitely is not supposed to be. I believe in the law of improvement than in the strive for competition.

Hello, thank you for taking out time to stop by here today and I will be discussing about living for you. In life there are so many factors to living.

There is influence, pressure, worries, conviction, competition and lots more.

These factors in most cases makes us shift perspective, makes us deviate from who we are to, living for what we are not.

I will be treating all of these factors one after the other:

• ·         Influence: The capacity to have an effect on the character, development, or behaviour of someone or something, or the effect itself, (as the dictionary said) and most times this is gotten from friends or the feeling to belong.

ONE ADVICE

Rather than being influenced, be the influencer.

• ·         Pressure: It is the force applied perpendicular to the surface of an object per unit area over which that force is distributed.  Ehnnn!! dictionary wants to do me the thing, all I am trying to say is Pressure is the force on something. This can come from parents and friends. More often parents whereby we are under the pressure to study a course we don’t want to or do something we would not want to.

Most times coming from our parents, it could be love but then…...

ONE ADVICE

If you do not live everyday doing what you love, you will live everyday acting what you do not love.

God made us for a reason and that reason we must find and achieve, our parents were created for a reason too, we are to obey them but not be subject to them, we owe our subjectness (if there is a word like that *winks) to God our creator. Our parents will want us to do things because of the love they have for us but then God wants us also to do things He wants for us and trust me most times His decision for us are independently communicated or passed across to us, it could come through the words of our parents or friends but most importantly seek His counsel first.

• ·         Worries: I term this word with death because it is not easy to get off worries, it’s like you are about losing your brains. One worry leads to another. Worried about how people will see you if you live like this instead of like that, worried about how you will make the next person feel if you say the truth, worried about the dress you will wear and what people will think, worries about this or that.

ONE ADVICE

The things you worry about yourself is what someone out there is praying for.

How many people worry about you? You worry about how people will look at your dress, or how people will think if you say this or say that, how many people bother if you wear clothes, if you have no food to eat how many people will be bothered?

The secret of existence is living for you. When you live for you, you find solutions to problems even before they come. You enjoy every moment and not bother what people think. The masterminds of your life are YOU and GOD, the earlier you begin to understand this the better for you and us. People grow to accept you for who you are when you live true and right, but people tend to pretend to accept you for who you are when you are acting to fit in and that fades in no time.

The last but not the least factor

• ·         Competition: Chai! This is a destroyer, competing with people just when you can be the better one.

ONE ADVICE

Rather than be the Competitor be the Competition.

All of these are phases I personally have gone through in life and I must say that every lesson learnt and I am still learning is amazing. The ability to live for you is priceless because so many people want to do that but find themselves deviating. It is a conscious effort and I pray that my little advice can make you think of making the change.

I Believe in you.

I will love to hear your thoughts too and please feel free to drop your advice in the comment box, someone might need it.

New Year Tidings : One Month, One Character Challenge.

Hello my darlingssssss, Happy happy new year....It feels like I haven't been here since like forever, Since I last met with you all in 2015.. Happy New Year once again.. I feel the ginger in the air as I know that this year we are all climbing the ladder of success and I know nobody will be left behind.

In this new year, I will be ushering us with a challenge, one I titled ONE MONTH, ONE CHARACTER Challenge.

What exactly does it mean? I know must of us have goals written down for the year, a  long list we have to conquer but some factors can hinder the fulfilment of those goals, some of which include, Character which is the number one, the number show spoiler for so many people.

Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved.
Helen Keller

This challenge is actually going to be a one month thing, I know you are wondering why should I be doing a character challenge for one month, but it is for the Art of Mastery, for the character to automatically be a part of you, you have to keep doing it. I know some of you will be saying, this one is punishment but then how long is a month? just 30/31 days.

So this challenge is easy I must say, I am actually going to do it myself and I believe it is very necessary for the year.

I have here my list of Character traits I need to work on every month for myself and if you will want to join me, I will be glaaaaaad to have you on board and if you want to make your own list, that is fine too, but please ensure you do. So here is my list:

January : Diligence

February : Love (Not because it is Valentine ooo)

March : Joy

April : Peace

May : Patience

June:  Kindness

July : Meekness/Humility

August :Faith

September : Self-Control

October : Confidence/Boldness

November : Servanthood (Church)

December : Appreciation.

Yes yes, this is my liiiiissstt, I am excited to be doing this. 12/12, I pray to get a pass mark at the end of the day.

So my first character challenge for this month is Diligence:

What Is Diligence?

Diligence is steadfast application, assiduousness and industry; the virtue of hard work.

It is one of the seven heavenly virtues.

Diligence in Christianity (my religion)

Diligence, in Christianity, is the effort to do one's part, while keeping faith and reliance in God.

In other words, diligence and faith are two sides of a mystery. One doesn’t know how, despite one's effort, it all works out. But diligence when combined with faith assures spiritual success. Diligence as one of seven virtues describes thoroughness, completeness and persistence of an action, particularly in matters of faith. 

Diligence to the very end, makes your hope sure. We do not want to become lazy, but to imitate those who through faith and patience inherit what has been promised.

— The Bible,

Diligence in one word means Commitment.

So yes yes o, that is what I will be working on this month.
I want to be able to:
Keep to time, fulfill promises, keep up with task and appointments (God help me) and lots more I need to be committed to.

What do I want achieve(make sure you write out what you want to achieve):

Consistency
Focus
Godly life
And a new good character

It is possible and I know we can do this.

We have to swim in Abundance this year and nothing can stop us, not even CHARACTER.

I will be glad to see your list in the comment below or your January Character Goal. Let's do this.

Remember that I Believe in You...