LOVE 101: PART 2B: LOVE AND TRUTH

Whenever truth is mentioned, it makes me smile because then I just remember the adage "TRUTH IS BITTER" anyways that really is not what we are going to be discussing, I would rather call my addag "TRUTH THAT SAVES"....

Before I go further, I really would love to appreciate my sweet readers who commented on previous posts and those who sent me messages privately. You all are wonderful. And special requests such as writing about individual stories,illustrations,also having a topic on "Long Distance Relationships". I definitely have that in mind, but now we are doing more of the foundation of Love and Relationship.And a big thanks to my readers for wanting to hear more from me. Love you guys plenty. 

Our major concentration today is based on Love and TRUTH. If you can recall we are still dealing on the solutions to hiccups, taking them one after the other. 

What does it mean to be truthful? If I must use my lame man understanding without quoting the oxford dictionary, it simply means stating things just the way they are. I definitely would love to hear your definitions.

Truth always saves, Lies might get you through the 1st time but what if you do not scale through the 2nd time?. But then Truth saves all the time. I mean ALL THE TIME. It might just cause a fight that can be resolved with a good conscience.

But then the secret of truth is the consciousness of having to tell your partner the truth will automatically keep you from doing wrong so as to prevent a hiccup.

Oh My! And when you consciously stay away from doing wrong it pleases God and your partner, so you have double benefits. What else could be as beautiful as having a part of your life sorted. God should give us the grace. It is actually a nice feeling but then most of us are involved in that scripture that states "The Spirit indeed is willing but the Flesh is weak"Mark 26:41B.The truth is no 1 is perfect but then we can choose a habit to perfect.

Think about it, speak the truth from Today and see how nice it makes you feel. You have kept lies for so long, why not free yourself and do not be afraid to do something for the first time, tell your partner the truth.

Be remorseful about it and find the right time to tell him. You know your partner, so you know the right times to tell him the truthful reverse of a story, just maybe when you have made his favourite food or when you are going to his favourite hang out spot.

I can imagine how it is for you to want to reverse the untruthful story. It will only save you from the law of Karma. keep a clean slate so you get a clean one in return.

To those yet to be in a relationship, please start with the truth, to those in relationships, its not easy o, but you can retrace your steps and make yourself at peace with your conscience and God at peace with you. Trust me am also working on myself.

MAKE YOUR PERSON TO MATCH YOUR CHARACTER

Give this a try and tell me how you felt.

This is the little I know. The floor is open to drop your own yarns. 

LOVE 101: PART 2A: LOVE AND HUMILITY

In this segment of the series, we are going to be paying attention to the solutions discussed in Part  2 in details(Love and Hiccups).

We are going to be discussing humility as a solution to relationship hiccup. As a person I must say it is easy to be humble but then it is also easy to fall out of humility and be proud. The essence of humility in our daily lives cannot be over emphasized.

As a check for humility ask yourself these few questions, how quick am I to apologize when am wrong? How quick am I to let go of things without having to use words like, "I wonder what am even doing with you" or "who do you think you are" and lots more. If you are a victim of any of these statements I must say you may not see it as pride but then that is.

I know most times these things do not hit on us on how relevant they are to us but then if you are proud, you will hardly attract people to yourself. No one is perfect but the ability to spot a wrong and fix it is what make an individual dynamic. Being proud is not a swag, not at all, maturity is found in humility.

If I hurt you and I say sorry it really does not take anything from me, it only makes me at peace with myself and also if for the sake of pride you are wrong I say am sorry, it just makes you feel inferior and you keep fighting with your conscience (though not everyone).

It's a conscious step to be proud and its a conscious step to be humble. Why not tell yourself these words today,
I will be the best I can be for myself and my partner.
I will learn to apologize and realize that it would not cost me anything, it will only restore my happiness with myself and my partner.

In the life, for humility to dwell in us we have to ask that the HolySpirit to fills us with the fruit of Meekness for life and for our partners.

C' mon you need to be happy and if you are in a relationship a happy relationship is a happy you so why then will you let the small boy called Pride steal your happiness.

In the series on love to the world, pride will be dealt deeply with, it's root and ways to cut it off.

Pride is the "DEADLIEST POISON THAT COULD KILL A RELATIONSHIP"


Surprise your partner today by saying "I AM SORRY".

Stay tuned for other series........

Drop your comments let us yarn about them.

LOVE 101: PART 2: LOVE AND HICCUPS

Love is one thing I could spend my whole life speaking about, but in return I could spend a better part of my life learning a lot about love.

Love and Hiccups is a topic I drew from the normal activity of humans but then it takes place in our love lives. Love is selfless and so is our body and when we hiccup it makes us restless and so does love feel when we have troubles but then there is a solution, the ultimate solution to hiccup is water but what then is the ultimate solution to Loves hiccups.

Let me start by asking is it possible to love without hiccups (relationship based love), the love of God our father has no hiccup, but then is it easy to emulate same in our relationship. Definitely Yes, hence we will find the solution to hiccups when they come.

When you have HICCUPS it does a whole lot to us, which includes: Hinderance of interaction, restless state of the body and we desperately look for a solution which is WATER

So also is the story of Love when we have issues in relationships we tend to lack a whole lot which include, laughter, happiness and we give room for Anger, Lack of Communication and it could lead to break up of some relationships and for marriages most times it could lead to a Divorce. But then don't you think that hiccup you are having in your relationship can be solved. The answer is an Ultimate YES. Do you know that no matter what we do God still loves us. Sometimes I wonder what kind of love he has got in his heart. But then as humans we can do the same, we could search for the water that can quench our hiccups in relationships. I will be listing a few and dealing with them one after the other. 

The Solution to our hiccups most times are to mention but a few: 

• HUMILITY: Drop that pride and let go of the issue, you do not need to let pride conquer your happiness.
• TRUTH: Say it how it is and let peace reign. Its difficult most times but then its a great solution.
• TAKE THE BLAME: You might wonder why should I take the blame, it will only make the other person feel like he or she has won, but then you are even the greatest winner.
• LAUGH IT OFF: Do not always take everything to be too serious, laugh off some issues and let correction be taken with Love.
• COMMUNICATE: Communicate in a way that even people outside will wonder do these people ever quarrel, you must not shout, shouting is Vague c'mon.

There are a whole lot but then we will be treating all of these solutions one after the other.

                   You too can add what you know is a solution and lets get talking.

I cannot yarn alone, so your addition is needed. Stay tuned for the next lesson on LOVE AND HICCUPS. 

LOVE 101: PART 1: BREAKING THE SILENCE

When silence is conquered, the major step has been defeated! Relationship and Love yarn! Sit back, sip your coffee, read and drop your comments. 

Here is this story of Kunle and Amaka, the whole crush story. The guy admired this girl all back in college but then he didn't know how to approach her and unfortunately they never had to cross paths, so this day came, he finally had to go pick up a friends key from the girl and he saw it as an opportunity to speak to the girl but unfortunately she also had innocently dropped the key with someone because she had to step out.

And yet came another chance whereby he had to speak to her but then, something came up again, "some of us might just feel it's the Lord saying something. Lol!"

But then he was persistent and this random day came, they were out for sports and he decided to make up his mind and walk up to her and get talking and he realized it was a whole lot simple than he thought. 

From that very day they kept talking, till they talked to proposal and they got married and they are living as a very happy family. 

In this story, the guy decided to be persistent even when all seemed abortive and he summoned the courage finally to go speak with the girl. 

 So for that guy out there, all it takes to conquer that first step is 

Persistence and Courage! Girls can do shakara o, but never mind just hold on. 

And yes a girl can break the silence too and approach the guy just to say hi and be friends we can never tell where it will lead to.

Abi my dear readers what do you think! So here are the questions I have to ask my beloved readers and when I see your reply I can now round it up! 

- Do you feel it is right for a girl to break the Silence?

- Do you feel it was right for the Boy not to have given up? 

 I dey wait una yarn!