Perspection

Perspective is not about what you see but the meaning you label to it.

I am faced with a situation of how life has happened. But then what really matters are how we view life from the angle we tend to look at things.

Life dishes in our face different scenarios but we are left to interpret those scenarios in way that will set us free rather than lock us up

I remember growing up, I had an amazing(I call it amazing now but then I described it otherwise) experience, I met my mum and dad not in the best of moods after having the couple not happy drama and I was trying to approach my mum to tell her something I believed could help the situation and the next thing that happened was just a feeling that I got that I could not relate why and how but here was I standing in front of my mum who had just given me a resounding slap that has left me wondering “why did you not just listen to me first?”

I felt terrible, displaced and above all I was angry. I vowed from that day never to show concerns about things that never mattered to me. I said that long time ago and it stuck to my reality even while I grew.
I saw that as a sign of hatred from my mother to me and also as a sign of why did I ever care? see what it has caused me.

Now that exactly was my point of view. I could not tell anything good had happened from that scenario and I had a million and one reason to validate that.

Going further through life, I forgot those times but I lived as one who did not care about people at all, I never cared how people felt or even if I did, I acted like I didn’t. 

I could not relate why I was living this way but I was not having so much problem with it so I never bothered. Automatically things began to work otherwise I was completely becoming a loner, I saw things I could correct but never did them and it made me either avoid that person or situation.
This continued till I found out that not only were my emotions being manipulated but my view towards things were also not right at all. I never saw anything as reasonable, I disliked a lot of things.
I realised during my therapy session that I chose to see things the way I did right from when I was much younger, I decided to let myself suffer emotionally, from that day I realised that we often fall victims to circumstances not because of what we see but the meaning we label to it.

Imagine you saw someone go get salt from the kitchen? it will be very normal to you but what happens when you finish preparing a delicious meal and you see a family member walk to the kitchen to go get salt? What the first thing that comes to mind? I am a terrible cook; my food does not taste nice. Now you are at this point where you have to battle with your inner self and the label of what that means, but Hey! What if the person really likes salt and just needs extra in his or her meal, does that make you any less of a cook?

Imagine also that you are at a point of your business where you have worked so hard and then you are at a point of signing this mega deal and the person calls in to say I am sorry I changed my mind? This is another bridge, what do you do? Do you have to cross the bridge over to the side where you curse yourself or just stay comfortable in your place and tell yourself everything happens for the best, something better is coming. Now I am not telling you not to speak out, sometimes you need to let it out but make sure whatever you speak does not clutter the interpretation of what you give to that scenario.

From my own story I grew to understand that my mum did not slap me because she did hate me but she did at the time because she was going through pain and that I did not understand. So, I had to understand that I need to understand how people really feel and how to address them in such times, so rather than scare away from people emotions I needed to become profound in understanding their emotions and helping out in the best way I can.

Life really is not about the things you see at the moment but the meaning that you label to it.

What do you feel looks like the most terrible experience right now in your life, have you tried to look at it from the other point of view?

A change of perception might just be all you need to achieve that freedom and success that you desire.

Take a second thought…..