Picking my pen again

It's a beautiful day to start again, so is tomorrow but I choose today.

I thought for a while what to name this particular post because it has been a long time since I wrote. It has been a long break from writing, and one thing I must say is, writing is very therapeutically, to say the least.  

Sooo... what have you been up to and what have I been up to?

It has been a roller coaster, moving through life, its seasons, and everything therein. Taking every day as it comes, trying to ignore thoughts and just pushing forward.

A bit about myself since you last saw me.

Monday Inspiration: USE THE HANDRAILS

Hello loverrrsss, It's a beautiful thing and above all a blessing to have seen a Monday again and for that I am grateful. I am grateful that I still have you in my circle reading my posts.

So, today I will be talking about USING THE HANDRAILS.

Now, you might be wondering, what exactly is about the handrail, it is simple, the Handrail is a safety measure to help you avoid a slip/fall when going up or down a step.

They are different situations in life that will require us holding fast to the handrail and taking a walk.
I will be listing a few:

• Nay Sayers: The negative people, the "no" it cannot work people, as much as you might just need people in your life sometimes to talk you out of the wrong situation be discerning to quickly hold on to the handrail and run real fast from those who always say No to everything you do and wish to accomplish. They have NOTHING good to offer, they only want to see you fall. 

• The Complainers: People who complain about every and anything. This is dangerous because in No time you become a complainer too. 

Monday Inspiration: Always Believe in Yourself

Hello dear lovers and readerssssssss, I trust the weekend went well and I am certain the week will turn out lovely as well, but before we dive into the week there is just one advice I will love to give which is ALWAYS BELIEVE IN YOURSELF, not your neighbor, not your friend, not your colleague, not your car but YOURSELF and then this should be done ALWAYS even when it doesn’t look like it, even when obviously the situation keeps telling you, things you haven't done right. Always believe in your self.

In every individual lies their strengths and weaknesses(EVERY) but the minute you can discover your strength and hold on fast to it, you have the best thing in the world.

Do not bother about who does believe and who doesn't believes in you. One question you should learn to ask yourself is: Am I doing the right thing, what’s the right thing? That which gives us peace on our inside, let no one take it away from you.

Soooo glad to be back

It feels super good to be back!! Woohoo!! 

I can’t even say hello to my lovers I once had here anymore because I know I have lost most of you but we will get to have that awesome relationship again. 

A lot has happened over the years but I am grateful it has all happened for good. 

How have you been?  

Please tell me in the comment section below. 

It is going to be an awesome time of inspiration, laughter and everything amazing, I might just be doing a bit of career this time, not like I know it all but I have gotten a hang of it now and I think I can be of help. 

My U-lovers. I missed you all, I don’t know how to go about this journey but right now there is one thing I know, I have got you all and we can go through this journey together, you and I know that this is my true zone, we share and learn from the heart and we keep it true.. 

Thanks to all my friends who have encouraged me to write again, my heart blesses you and I am certain you know how important you will always be, I am super grateful and to those who kept asking why I stopped writing, well....unnecessary excuses but never mind, we are back and you and I know it only gets better. 

Please leave a comment below and tell me what you want me to write. 

Please encourage me! 

Thank you 🙏🏻 

Be Fearless

Tell yourself some truth.

This really is all it takes to live that life that sets your soul on fire.

I should stop here now.

No, I will continue.

I try to remember how growing up was for me and in one sentence all I can say is, it was Lieful, if there was a word like that.

Who told me the lies?

No Other person but MYSELF.

How?

Believing what everyone had to say about me and acting just that way.

You are living a life of lies if actually you are living off a script.

I struggled to find my face and understand what my message truly was because I felt I have been told this and that and so if it is not this and that it is not the way forward.

Be careful how you listen to people's advices concerning your life, including myself because really and truly it is not in anyone's DNA to help you understand your life, they can only guide you to becoming the best of yourself but you have to determines yourself first.

I now have a message, I am glad but to everyone who has reached out to me to ask me how I got my message, I did two things, I asked God for it and I told myself the truth.

Sometimes we ask from God and just feel we have to wait for it to fit in with the crowd before it becomes valid, No! Your message is peculiar to you.

I teach you to master your mindset and overcome your fears, did I always know this Noooo.

But I had to ask the right question to get the right answers.

My candid advice, stop the struggle, tell yourself the truth and live your uniqueness.

It is okay to start confused but do not stay confused.

#Nomoreexcuses

8 E’s Principle - An Ultimate Guide to finding Purpose by Onyinye Etoniru

Onyinye Etoniru shares her story to purpose discovery with her 8E’s Principle - an ultimate guide to finding purpose.

Growing up, I heard a lot about the importance of finding one’s purpose in life. While I was in the University, I took interest in topics and books on purpose because I knew it was one thing I had to get right in life. I remember reading Rick Warren’s Book, The purpose Driven Life. After reading it, it gave me a good idea about purpose but it was all still fuzzy and unclear to me how to really find my own path. But with time, I realized that my purpose in life is determined by God and the discovery of my purpose is not God’s responsibility but my responsibility. As I submitted myself to a life of attention to God and His workings in my life, that’s when I began to truly find my fit in life. The revelation of the knowledge of God, opened me up to the discovery of my purpose. Purpose is one of the essential things you’ll need to discover amongst all other discoveries. You can’t afford to neglect the law of purpose if you want to achieve personal success because the full expression of who you are is embedded in purpose. There is no true success outside of one’s purpose as your vision in life is derived from your purpose. You’ve got to find what you were born for and why you were born at a time like this. Finding my purpose started with me, truly having an encounter with God. The more I got closer to God and went through His process of building me up and allowing myself to experience the potter’s touch, the more He revealed His purpose for my life. I had a picture of my future and an insight into who I would become but I needed to take out time to pay attention to my life, listen to God, connect the dots and receive clarity with the help of the Holy Spirt. 

 

Remember Joseph, the dream he had about the sun and moon and eleven stars  bowing down to him which represented his parents and his eleven brothers bowing down to him, was not man-imputed but God-imputed. This vision was a picture of the future but the purpose was discovered during the process. He knew he was going to rule someday, but he didn’t have the details of the process. As he took steps each day, purpose became clearer to Him. Joseph’s story explains the course of purpose that you can use as a reference point.

I’ll share with you the 8e principle, I discovered on my journey which you can as well apply in finding your own purpose. It starts with pictures of your future, having a vision derived from your purpose and exploring your interests. It may not be a day discovery, sometimes it may be revealed in parts via the seasons of your life; but three things are essential, being sensitive to the things that’s happening in your life and around you, learning to connect the dots and staying in the path where you find true fulfillment.

 

The 8E’s PRINCIPLE

As you read each principle, meditate thoroughly on each of them and write down detailed answers of your findings.

 

Eye - what do you see about your future and how do you see yourself?

What great picture of the future birthed in the Spirit, have you carried in the depth of your Spirit for as long as you can remember? (Vision)

Ease - what you do so easily with or without little or no prior knowledge and without stress when compared to other people doing the same thing? (Ability)

Ears - what have you heard overtime from people that you’re good at?  What have others pointed out to you, commended you for and celebrated you for? Listen to these trusted voices. (Talent)

Energy - what do you do, that leaves you in an energized mode no matter how long you spend doing it and it’s not exactly tiring? (Interest)

Excitement - what is that thing that keeps you thrilled about waking up in the morning to do it, read about it and talk about it? You have a high state of aliveness, tranquility and satisfaction knowing that you would be doing this for the rest of your life. (Joy)

Experiences - what outstanding experiences have you had in the past that has shaped your life and you feel it has something to do with your destiny? Find out why you passed through those experiences, there may be more to them. (Lessons)

Environment - what problem are you driven to solve in the society? Which set of people are you drawn to serve and on what platform are you inspired to express these solutions? (Pointers)

Enlargement - what have you been involved in prior to now, that has experienced expansion, increase, growth even with little effort?  What are the things you’ve been engaged in that has resulted in mega results and expansive outcome? (Results)

 

Connecting the dots closely via these principles, you’ll be able to discover the most prominent ideas, truths and pointers to help you define your path. Remember, it’s not in your place to choose your purpose, your responsibility lies in discovery. Finding purpose has a large extent to whether you become truly eternally successful or not. It’s not okay to live each day out of sync with your purpose or settle for what comes your way or what others or your parents think you should be doing. You should be destiny conscious enough to invest effort and time in finding your purpose. When you do discover it per time, make sure you don’t leave your purpose but live your purpose with courage.

Communication with Self

One of the ways to eliminate fear is to communicate with self.

What is communication?

A two way dialogue, where one person speaks and the other understands and vice-Versa.

One key factor in communication is to ASK QUESTIONS.

And that is one important part of communicating with self to eliminate fear.

What is it you fear? Is it relationship, is it failure?

Whatever it is, one thing you should learn to do is ask yourself questions.

How To Create Peace On Your Inside for Better Results (Part 2).

Yesterday I started the lesson on how to create peace on your inside for better result.

I gave the number one point which is CONSCIOUSLY SAY THOSE THINGS: I stated that we should say those things out and let them flow. Allow your expression from your head flow freely from your lips, automatically you awaken the filtration method in your mind which extracts the relevant thoughts from the irrelevant, as you speak you keep hearing those things which are not supposed to be and those that are.

The Second way is to STOP: I mean STOP, stop saying those things now, it is almost a habit for us to start something and not know when to stop. You need the time to stop and think about all you have just said. Pay proper attention to the words you have just spoken:
Now in this stop process, there are things to watch out for. Remember every thought that has passed through your mind or rather that bothers us are what we have categorically termed BAD. Remember nothing is bad until we say it is. So when a thought becomes a worry it is because we have attached some sort of negativity with it. So now the question is:
The things you have said out which did you categorically stated as Negative/bad, why?
Upon answering that we can then go to the next step which is

How To Create Peace On Your Inside for Better Results (Part 1).

Asides the fact that the greatest peace comes from feeling and having the presence of God, we also have the obligation to create that peaceful life for our everyday living.

There are times when we try to cloud our minds with things that matter and things that really truely do not matter (stop for a minute and ask yourself, what is bothering my mind now and does it really matter?)

We often get so carried away in our thoughts that we barely know or have time to sort out which is right for us at the moment and which is not.

I can tell you this because I know and I have been there. I was once called a thinker box, I travel in my own mind in less than 5mins, I remember then in school, I could be having a lecture and I am gone in thoughts, one day I had a friend walk up to me and tell me, you really should stop this act and I wondered what it was, he has been observing me and he had noticed that I think a lot.

Prepare Your Mind

Nobody needs to tell you.

I remember waking up today with so much excitement feeling, like I got everything I needed and even more.

I stepped out feeling really neat and my clothes well straightened, it is Monday and there should be a lot of excitement in the air. I walked down the street and I boarded a vehicle headed to work.

The weather was so beautiful just before I left home, it just felt like that kind of day where you would want to sit in the sun and just admire how beautiful nature looks.

How to create Peace on your inside for Better Results .

Asides the fact that the greatest peace comes from feeling and having the presence of God, we also have the obligation to create that peaceful life for our everyday living.

There are times when we try to cloud our minds with things that matter and things that really truly do not matter (stop for a minute and ask yourself, what is bothering my mind now and does it really matter?)

We often get so carried away in our thoughts that we barely know or have time to sort out which is right for us at the moment and which is not.

I can tell you this because I know and I have been there. I was once called a thinker box, I travel in my own mind in less than 5mins, I remember then in school, I could be having a lecture and I am gone in thoughts, one day I had a friend walk up to me and tell me, you really should stop this act and I wondered what it was, he has been observing me and he had noticed that I think a lot.

He spoke for a while then he asked, can you share a bit of your thoughts with me? So I know if I can help out?

I paused for a minute and it was almost like I saw my head spin 360 degrees in half a second count. I could not place my head on one thing at the moment, I realised that even though I knew I was going through a lot in my life which I had placed in my head, I was unsettled with the important and unimportant thoughts.

I then started out on a journey to crave for peace of mind, I knew I was troubled and I needed to find peace.

Now what do I mean by peace?

Make the CHIOCE.

Pain and sadness are natural expressions and if they exist freely from our inside we have no choice but to freely give them out, so also is joy and total happiness but then there is one factor that splits across both and that is CHOICE, you have the ability to choose how you treat yourself, nobody can teach you to love yourself, you have to make that decision on your own because the truth remains that for every atom of love you show to yourself , you have same amount deposited in you to give to others.

Things and conditions might have caused us pain and that pain automatically leaves a sting but it is our ability to make the choice to Detach from that emotion of pain and move on to joy, see it for good and appreciate its lessons, it might not be easy but it is possible, because the only way you can properly relate with others is when you have a proper relationship with Yourself.

Make the CHIOCE.

Perspection

Perspective is not about what you see but the meaning you label to it.

I am faced with a situation of how life has happened. But then what really matters are how we view life from the angle we tend to look at things.

Life dishes in our face different scenarios but we are left to interpret those scenarios in way that will set us free rather than lock us up

I remember growing up, I had an amazing(I call it amazing now but then I described it otherwise) experience, I met my mum and dad not in the best of moods after having the couple not happy drama and I was trying to approach my mum to tell her something I believed could help the situation and the next thing that happened was just a feeling that I got that I could not relate why and how but here was I standing in front of my mum who had just given me a resounding slap that has left me wondering “why did you not just listen to me first?”

Smile Because You Can

Is it possible to stay smiling? A question someone asked me the other day. I sat on this question for a while because I had previously had a conversation with a friend and he goes, you are never smiling, you should learn to keep smiling so people will know you are approachable.

I wondered why should I just keep smiling even when walking on the road. But the day I tried it, I got these 3 answers,

Seeking Social Validation

Seeking Social Validation....I AM, ARE YOU? Ohhhh! Scratch that.

Let us start over…

Hey awesome people, I feel so glad having to come drop my 0.5 cents on what I feel on my areas of concentration.

Where did it all go wrong? Are the gyms suddenly increasing in their numbers making people lose who they truly are?

The Journey To Self-Awareness

A lot has been said about mission, purpose and passion, people who do not connect with these almost feel there is something wrong with them, but hey! there is nothing wrong. I totally understand because I have been there, what in heaven’s name does passion mean, what in heaven’s name does purpose mean? I asked all these questions because then I could not connect with what people were saying about purpose, passion, mission and vision and how it related to me. I could not stop asking, must everyone have a purpose, passion, mission and vision?

The answer is a big YES and that was the reason why we were all created, if you have not discovered yours does not mean it does not exist, but to discover your purpose, something must be done first.

I soon got to realise I did not understand any of these questions because I really and truly did not understand WHO I WAS. I really was not aware to Self, I did not understand my values, I never took time to imagine if I even had a skill, I lived everyday as it came. I INTENTIONALLY had to go through the process of getting to know, understand me for me, my skills, knowledge, values and responsibilities and hidden in all of these came the answer to my question of must everyone have a vision, purpose, passion and mission.

I will share on that today as I know there are people out there who have same question bothering them.

It is called the journey to Self-Awareness (My little secret for discovering who you truly are)

My Bus Driver Experience (Anger Management)

I was heading to the saloon from work and on getting to the first saloon being carried in a vehicle, I did not find the stylist I was looking for, I decided to go try my other saloon and since the vehicle had left and so I decided to join a bus. 

After a long day at work, it was not the best feeling to hear a driver who is screaming at everyone in the bus, not even feeling like though he spoke to humans, but hey, I was in and the only thing I could do was wait until I get to my destination. 

I tried making my payments on time because I knew I did not have the exact amount and I needed the driver to get the change before I get to where I will highlight but then he responded as though I was the devil he had a fight with in his dream, so much anger in his voice that I almost did not understand what I said wrong, with my tired self, I did not even have the strength to respond as I knew that was going to lead to different type of things, so I rather held myself and let him take the lead. 

Getting to my place of highlighting, I finally gave him the money and while I was still trying to get out of the bus he decided to start collecting money from everyone and that was going to keep me waiting for a long time, I waited for a while and then I asked for my change, at first it seemed like I was talking to myself but that did not stop me because I was running late, when I asked the next time, he looked at me, sighed and threw the money on the floor then drove off and I was left with the option of picking the money from the floor. At first, I was so upset, my heart was swelling, I could literally just quit all I have to do and go home, I was wondering what on earth will make a driver throw money on the floor. 

But then as I watched the bus drive off, I quickly reminded myself that there are lessons to learn from everything and this was just a test of how well I can take control of my emotions

I was able to manage myself well and had a happy day after all not minding how close anger looked me in the eyes and I said, I am not cut out for this. 

This did not happen as magic, they are things I have gotten to understand and put to practise.

So for the next 5 Tuesdays, I will be doing a few in-depth training on anger management, its cycles, triggers, the Do’s and Don’ts, gaining control and solving the problem.

Making Wise Use of your Time

"Tick Says the Clock, Tick Tick, what you have to do, do quick"

Does this song sound familiar to anyone? I am sure the Ajebutters will relate better. 

Happy Sunday Lovelies. 

I was journeying home from church today and that song came to mind. Nursery rhymes we sang without placing any meaning to it. 

But as I sang it in my head, I heard it speak to me and I thought to share with you. You know I love it when I discuss with you. 

Never assume you have all the time in the world for you to take your time procrastinating and dragging your feet in getting things done. 

Time waits for no one and like my song goes, tick says the clock. The clock keeps ticking it does not stop(I wonder) even  though some days you pray for it to pause for a while and wait for you but then trust me, If wishes were horses.

It is important that as we try to do everything and anything we should also try to manage our time, by treating priorities before minorities. 

Give little or no room to distractions. Have a plan, set your realistic goals in measurable manner. 

Work on better and more productive ways to getting things done. Technology has come to help us, find out the app or drive that can help you achieve a task faster. 

Use time wisely because remember Tick says the Clock, Tick tick, what you have to do, do quick. 

I am considering coming live to share my messages rather than writing. But for now the ministry must still keep moving. 

I love you all and I know you can do it because IT IS POSSIBLE. I believe so much in you. 

I will like to know how many of us sang this song in Nursey school, please reply with "Aunty I" in the comment box. 

Let us sieve the Ajebutter from AjeKpako.

Challenge:

Find out things(app, gadget or articles) you can use to enhance your time. 

I will be sharing a new finding tomorrow, I saw it and I loved it, I believe you should too, I am sorry, I feel like I should just keep writing. 

But I have to run, Sunday Jollof Rice Loading topped with Chicken and ......byee.

The Person in the Waiting Room.

I was having a meeting with one of my mentors today and it brought a light bulb moment(God bless mentors) 

He made me understand that sometimes you do not just have to settle for anything, all you need do is just keep waiting. 

You do not necessarily have to take that leap from your job just because the next looks enticing and hell no this other job did not just soothe you anymore. It's possible that where you are does not suit you but it does not necessarily mean that just any leap is the leap for you. 

A few questions have to be answered first and I will be talking about the most important question:

Does it give you peace? 

It is possible that something looks so nice, it even coincidentally tallies with what you have set your mind to achieve but then does it give you peace on your inside. 

The very clear truth is we all know when we are at peace with something or someone and when we naturally do not welcome them from within but we try so hard to bake the situation and just go with the excuse of it tallies with what I told God or what I imagined in this year 2016. 

The question is not about the tally, it is about the peace because that is the clearest way of making a decision and if you get sincere with yourself, you just make that decision to stay waiting. 

Who says it's easy, when almost the truth stares you in your face. 

But ask yourself would you rather settle for almost the truth or stay waiting for the truth. 

The truth is not a myth, it is a reality.

The 6th Month Relaxation and Year Plan Review

The 6th month of the year is here, it's almost up and it has got most of us having cold feet. A Lot was expected to be done before now but yet little or nothing has been achieved or not as much has been achieved.

It has not gotten bad yet, all it might just need you to do is take some time off. The only way you can get to run at a faster speed is if you take some time to train and understand the tracks and what the race looks like. The same goes with putting your vision into action for the months left in the year.