Insights On Perfection

There are some facts about life that is beyond our power to erase, above all is the ability to be perfect. Some way, somehow we all would love life to go so smooth (oh I would love that too), were they would not be any errors, no one getting to annoy anybody, things not failing for us to make corrections , everything just going perfectly. But then is it possible *sighs*, is it possible to avoid failures? Is it possible to resist failures? Is it possible to stay without having something go wrong and we having to fix it? Just like you are thinking so am I, it is not possible to have everything right.

I will be discussing some insights about perfection. There are a few things we need to note and I will be listing the few and they include:

1. You can never be perfect: Do not try so hard, the harder you try, the more complicated you get things for yourself. Life just has us fixed that way, you can never be perfect but then there will be mistakes, failures but there will always be a way out. You cannot be perfect, but even in our imperfection there is always a solution.

2. Things would not always happen how you want them to: Some people tend to say they are perfectionist, oh no! That’s rather wrong, they are rather solution providers and they also have people who provide them solutions. Never expect everything to happen how you want them to. More often than not we want things to happen at that particular moment because they will make us happy but then is that the right thing for us. We can succeed, success does not connote perfection. Give your best to all you do and with God it will work out fine.

3. Do not expect perfection from others: Whatever ideas you might have thought of are yours, do not expect people to give it to you just as you have it in your head. Do not expect others to always agree with you, what might be right to you might not just be right to me. We are different individuals with our unique personalities. 

ACCEPTANCE IS KEY

We just have to accept things how they come, take people how we see them and correct the few we can and adapt to those we can hardly change or better still avoid them.

We have to trade the ideas of being perfectionist. We can only work hard to improve, the changes we see but never expect everything you try to always work, something’s are not just for you, someone else would rather do that thing than you. Never expect everyone to say yes to your ideas and beliefs. The idea of perfection is impossible, it only makes us unhappy.

By accepting that we are not perfect, it gives us more room to try, to realize, to make corrections and to live.

Name that thing you have tried and it made you realize I can't actually do everything.

This is the little I know, I would love to hear your views. Kindly drop your comments below and if you would like me to share an inspiration, idea or personal experience to help a life kindly send the write-up to chukwuuju@ymail.com

Designed As You : According to the Second Chapter of the Epistle of Joel

In life we face similar situations of people living and trying to be who they are not, today I would love to inspire someone with this topic Designed as you. You are not designed to be anyone else but you. Most times it is difficult to live above envy and jealousy but then again we are ignorant of the fact that we suffer from these.  Owing what you have and earnestly craving what the next person has leads to jealousy. More often than not being contented is the first step to erase or live above envy and jealousy, rather than see the other person as best why not see yourself as best?

It also gets very terrible when we see what the next person has and the urge to getting that same item makes us spend our last penny to purchase that item. Most people call it "Wanna Be" but I would rather say that is one of the deadly habits of envy and jealous. 

You do not get to please the world by pretending to live a life that is not yours, rather you are just stressing yourself trying to please people who do not even feel half of the stress you go through. JUST BE YOU, that’s the most priceless item in the market. You cannot tell how much value you place on yourself if even when faced with all sorts you decide to be you. Being you is the most attractive, most pricey value you can ever own.

The Second chapter in the epistle of Joel in the bible explains this better "Like warriors they charged like soldiers, they scale the wall. They march each on his way, they do not swerve from their paths. They do not jostle one another, each marches in his path, they burst through the weapons and are not halted" Joel 2:7-8.

This scripture teaches us who we truly are, Princes and Princesses, Kings and Queens who do not walk on the path of one another but rule in our own unique way.

I tell you in all sincerity, NOBODY can be you and that person you are trying to be like can never match the great personality you have on your inside. 

You are designed by God to be a prince/princess in your own field. That dream you have would come to pass, but it definitely would not come when you are trying to be someone else. Do not lose track of who you are because of jealousy, envy and peer pressure.

Rather than let people influence you, be the influence. In your daily activities pride yourself in who you are through Christ. 

Life is not a competition, never live to impress, live to make a difference. 

You are beautiful/handsome. Believe this about yourself and above all believe you are designed as you.

This is the little I know, I would love to hear your views. Kindly drop your comments below and if you would like me to share an inspiration, idea or personal experience to help a life kindly send the write-up to chukwuuju@ymail.com

Who does the ingredients in your kitchen blender remind you of?

You and I purchase a lot of items for different purposes and it’s funny how we do not get to observe that everything about life relates to our factor; the Godly, our being and existence, it all depends on if you see it for the good or the bad.

Our kitchen blender, we all know what we use our blenders for, some use them for fruits, some for ingredients but the major aspect is we use them to get the smooth feel of whatever item we put into it and we keep blending whatever we put in till it is smooth enough for our use.

Now let’s see this illustration, you are at a stage of your life and it gets to a point everything you seemed to have gotten involved with seems to be going down the drain even the few that seemed to be working isn't working how it is supposed to and we say I have prayed, I have prayed and there seems to be no God, I give up, then you should ask yourself what will my blender do to the ingredients If I put them and I leave it to blend, will my blender say I am fed up of blending this ingredient, NO!! It keeps up with whatever speed, then why can’t you just do same. God our ultimate controller is up there pressing the knob of stop and start to make you persevere. Our kitchen blender or rather my kitchen blender teaches me to persevere and the single rule of perseverance is moving with a faster speed even when it doesn't feel like you are heading somewhere but with perseverance, determination and hard work you achieve that which you want to achieve.

Now I would love to ask, do you feel the ingredients in your blender reminds you of yourself, we have an ultimate controller and that is God. He presses the button but do we stay in till we are blended smooth or during the process of blending do we make God give up on us and think we cannot be smooth. In most cases we make God give up and we think He gave up on us. Setting your ways right and following His instructions are the easiest ways to success, not so easy but the gallops you can definitely sail through.

It is not easy to persevere till the finish product but then it will be worth it, as human we are faced with bumpy rides in the journey of life, but then I always say God cannot put you through a test if you did not have the ability to handle it, it all takes sitting down to find the solution. There are ways which we can easily climb up the ladder and these are with the fruits of the Spirit.

LOVE, JOY, PEACE, PATIENCE, KINDNESS, GOODNESS, MEEKNESS, FAITH AND SELF CONTROL.

Have you ever noticed that there are some fruits that not minding the amount of pressure you put they don’t blend? Are you that type of ingredient, what more pressure do we need from God than that of sending His son? John 3:16.

I pray and hope that we become those ingredients in the blender that doesn't give the master stress and how do we do this? 

It takes very few steps:

   -Make your ways right: - Do the right things at the right time.

   -Be determined: - stay in the blender even when God says I am tired, you have stressed me; you should say Lord, I know I have but I won’t let you go until you make my life smooth.

   -Always persevere: - The process of blending might not just be as easy as that of the ingredients in our kitchen, one might take a little longer but persevere knowing that the end will be smooth and that will surely be the result.

A Tour in the World of Uncertainty

I believe that we all are doing real fine. I must say I do not know where this topic came from but I know it is out here to inspire someone.

What point at your life are you right now? More often than not people are faced with a whole lot of decisions to make. There comes a time that what the next day has in store we are uncertain about it, even what to do the next minute we are also uncertain about it. So yeah! Let’s ride in this world and see how we can come to certainty, know who is in charge of the certainty of our now, our today and our tomorrow.

Most times we all fall victims of wishing We knew what tomorrow has in store, but then are you sure you want to know? It could be a learning curve, yea! But then it could also be a moment of depression for a few. And the bible reminds us to be anxious of nothing but in prayer and supplication render our requests to God.

Our curiosity and fear of losing out leads us to doing things that are not right. 

Are you a stylist and you are wondering how that plan of being the best stylist in 2020 is going to be a reality when you are not even noticed now (2015), are you at that stage of your career when you know that this was not what you envisioned for 5 years down the line? 

It might not just be how you want it to look now, but then I advise you keep doing your best and leave the rest to God. In this world of uncertainty we do not know what tomorrow holds but God is too certain about our future.

We all have plans, both those we write down and those we have in mind and hope to fulfil, but how solid do you think your plan can actually be when you are uncertain of what tomorrow actually has for you. But then once again the bible tells us to write our vision and make it plain. Hab. 2:2a.

Can we ever be certain about our future? No! But is God certain about our future? Oh yes he is!

We all write down these visions and plans and when they get shaky we get really bothered, but then do you know the world at large is riding in the boat of uncertainty? Just so do not think you are the only one. We all have plans and we all have visions but the truth is I can never be certain about how they will turn out and so is the other person beside you as well. The only thing I can be certain about and I advise you to be certain about is that God has promised us a future and a hope. Meaning the certainty of that which you worry about today is in God’s hands.

Never feel you have not put in your best to make that aspect of your life work, but instead when it seems like all is not working how it is supposed to be working, tell yourself you have actually not put the best of God into that aspect of your life to make it work.

This is what we all go through in life, trust me the next person beside you does not have it all sorted out, we are touring in the world of uncertainty with our faith in the God who is certain. 

Do not give up on that work and plans, it might not speak today but it will surely speak. 

Do not envy that person you see today, the uncertainty of the future is a cross we all bear, we only put in our best and leave the rest to God.

Believe in God for that which we do and see it turn out for good.

We are all uncertain and so is the world. We are all touring in the world of uncertainty backed up with the God of Certainty. Believe in the God of the future and he shall perfect all that concerns it.

This is a thought that came to my mind and I thought I should share. This is the little I know I will be glad to learn from you. For personal issues kindly send a mail to chukwuuju@ymail.com

The Lady And The Man Of Her Dreams

My people how una dey. I am sure your week is going fine.
This segment I will be going a little bias on the gender, speaking mostly to the females but to the favour of my male brothers. I hear guys complain of ladies of the Jet age (lol) and I’m surprised, and I say but from the beginning it was not so. What did we do oo?

They say ladies of this age are too materialistic, is it true? They say we want a whole lot of luxury, is it true? Ah! Okay. I personally can say I have seen a few but then it does not apply to so many of us. To my sisters, I will try and give some advice just to help who we are and what the men think of us because what and who they see us to be matters, knowing that Adam has to find Eve.
I will be giving the advice the best way I can to  ladies and to the gentlemen out there we will address yours too as time goes on.

Who really is the Man of that ladies dream, that lady you see out there? It can be true that some or most of us if we see what we write as our dream man, Ah! It is good to write out a lovely life ahead, why not! But in the pursuit of the things of luxury we should not get carried away.

I will actually like to make an illustration with a group A girls list and group B girls list and compare both of them.
A common list for the group A girls are:
• A God fearing man
• A truthful Man
• A handsome Man
• A man with a bright future
• A faithful man
• A bold and courageous man
• A caring and Loving man
• A family man

And the group B girls list goes this way:
• A good looking man
• A well-built man
• A man with 3 cars
• A man that lives at lekki for those that live in Lagos
• A man that can take me to minimum 2 countries for pre-wedding photo shoot.
 Lol guys better brace up.

This might not be the best criteria but then I must say for the group A girls and Group B girls may God grant our heart desires. But above having all of these on this list is not what matters, having a happy marriage even with all of this is what matters. And there is a secret inside these list, List A and List B, the secret is all that was listed in 5 bullet points In List B is listed in only 2 bullet points in List A. Someone please help me out, the smart one gets a price for that.

But where did true love go!? In this area, the men and ladies are at fault. Most times, ladies write a whole lot of list and when they run a checklist and put together a character of 5 then they pursue it with all their might and they forget the place of true love.
The man of our dreams must not have the world at the point of our meeting but then he has to be the owner of all in List B and even more.
The lady and the man of her dreams, let us put the future into consideration when making these choices, remember all that glitters is not gold. Let us put the future into consideration in our plans rather than put the things we see today into consideration and put the future aside. Material things will always come, most times we should put our thoughts before our actions. Support the man you love, rather than love the money that the owner will not support you. With God and love, the lady can make up a plan for the man of her dreams and list A and list B will be yours. It is still your choice to make, but this is my genuine advice.

DO NOT GO CHASING THE SMOKE THAT COMES AFTER THE FIRE, WHEN YOU CAN OWN THE FIRE AND THE SMOKE.

Do not go chasing after what has already been produced for no reason when you can start the production and be proud you did. Love what you have and let love and God be the foundation of our relationships. Let US (you and me) change the notion the guys have about us.
We can make our love life and marriage be the envy of the world even with nothing.

This is the little I know. I will be glad to learn from you. Kindly let me know what you think. For personal message reach out to me with my contact information below and you could send a mail chukwuuju@ymail.com .

God First(1ST) , Lover Second (2ND)

There comes a time in relationships that we notice that things have moved from how they are supposed to be to how they are entirely not supposed to be.

I had the privilege of meeting a girl that complained to me about her relationship and that was my inspiration of this series, I would not be mentioning any names for privacy reasons.

She came to me looking all sad and full of worries and from her facial expression you could tell everything was wrong. I finally asked what was wrong and before she could say anything she broke down in tears. I stood wondering what really this could be and then she asked, why are things not working out for her? her relationship is not working and things are not just going right, then I knew we were up for a long conversation. And I asked her, please explain yourself dear.

She spoke to me and said she has done everything humanly possible to make her relationship work, she started listing all she did and I would let out only but a few. She told me she changed her church because her boyfriend did not like where she attended and when she did that things were going well with her relationship until furthermore her boyfriend told her he did not like how she went to church during the week and all of these service unit meetings. Without hesitation, she reduced or rather stopped attending them and she started spending more time with him, she told me that she did not have a problem because at least she could pray at home.

Then she smiled and said he was really excited and things were going on really interesting. They hung out most times, they did almost everything together and she told me that she just knew God had heard her prayers and given her the best. Then all of a sudden things changed, the guy always gave excuses why he could not go out with her and how he needed time to concentrate on other things. She said she did not know who to run to for advice, she did not know what to do. And I asked how long have you guys been dating and how serious were you guys? She said they been dating for a year (1 year) 3 months and her family did not know him. So she could not even make all these complaints to her family and she also feels God has given up on her because since she decided to change her job she has had problems with finding a new one job. 

Now she is jobless, she has no relationship and she almost cannot say she is a Christian anymore.

Wow!!! I thought I was watching a movie.

After she said all of these, she asked what is she going to do now? That I should please advise her. Then I realized it was reality.

 Little of my own knowledge but with the wisdom of the Holy Spirit, I told her lets thank God first for making you realize yourself before it got too late, the place of putting the lover first and placing God second is the place I think you lost it. But since things are like this now, let’s get back on track and turn the table, put God first and let the lover be second. The lover can get tired but God can never get tired of you. The lover can change but God can never change, the lover can say I am no more interested but God is always interested.

Above all the lover did not know how you were created but God is the one who created yourself and the lover in question.

It is easy because you have known who God is and when things were going really great you knew it was Him, and since he doesn't change, you actually should pick your pieces up, find yourself in God and he will sort everything out for you.

Put God first and the lover second and your total joy shall be restored.

This is also a story of someone out there, who has let relationship control our Christian life and my advice would be for you to note that things never go wrong when you put God first but if you put man first, man may fail you.

Like my father in the Lord will say you cannot make one eye to look up and the other to look down, never claim to be looking unto God when you are looking unto man.

The ability for us to realize where things went wrong is because God wants us to retrace our steps. Do not wallow in the well of sadness, Dust it off, put yourself together and tell yourself from henceforth in any relationship I will place God first and the lover second.

This is the little advice I gave. If you had to advise her what will you say? Kindly drop your comments below. If you have stories to share, please do not hesitate to contact me via email on chukwuuju@ymail.com

Have a nice week.

WORLD HEALTH DAY 2015 : If It Must Get Into Your Mouth, It Should Be Healthy

Happy Easter my people, how are we doing today? We thank our Almighty God for sending his son to die for us on the cross and paying the price for our sins.

Today we will be joining the world to celebrate World Health Day (WHO). More often than not we tend to put our tummy into consideration before putting into consideration if what we put in our mouth is good for our body or not. I would rather advice it is the other way round, consider what you put into your mouth before considering your tummy. Of what benefit will it be after eating then you have to stool for the rest of the day. We should try to consider eating neat, eating right to stay healthy.

I should believe everyone someway somehow in the rush to quench hunger would eat food that will end up giving us running tummy. I have fallen victim a number of times.We should put into consideration taking into our mouth what is neat, what good for our body, what nourishes us and what keeps us strong.

If food must get into your mouth then it should be healthy and what do we call healthy food, a healthy food to me is a Balanced Meal. Balanced diet is putting the appropriate number of nutrients our body needs to function. Right number of Carbohydrate, Protein, Calcium, Iron e.t.c.

I think its better we spend to eat right then spend to treat to feel right.

Let's look into a very essential part of our eating healthy. Fruits we eat and how important they are to our body.

Fruits can never be overrated. The little fruit we take into our month does a whole lot to our body. Do you know fruits can save you from spending a whole lot of exercise, rather than going to the gym to put in all you've got you could take the right amount of fruits and stick to jogging daily and you will be a perfect fit.

I  am obsessed fruit lover and smoothies just makes fruits a lot interesting. Many thanks to @sofreshmarketng for always been there to attend to my fruit needs.

TREAT YOUR TUMMY RIGHT AND YOUR DAY WILL BE RIGHT.
If it must get into your mouth, it should be healthy- Chukwu Uju

This is what I know, if you have further contributions feel free to drop your comments or send a message to chukwuuju@ymail.com.

Have a healthy year