Self Pity II

 Hello readers I am sure we all enjoyed the first part of self-pity and there are still lots to learn about Self-pity that's why we have a part II *Yaaay*

What does the Bible say about Self-pity?

Every human being is prone to self-pity. We are born self-centered, with a powerful drive to protect our egos and our rights. When we decide that life has not treated us as we have the right to be treated, self-pity is the result. Self-pity causes us to obsess over our hurts, real or perceived. At the heart of self-pity is a disagreement with God over how life and how he has treated us.

The biggest clue that self-pity is not of God is the word self. Any time we are focused on ourselves, other than for self-examination leading to repentance (1 Corinthians 11:28), we are in the territory of the flesh. Our sinful flesh is the enemy of the Spirit (Romans 8:7). When we surrender our lives to Christ, our old nature is crucified with Him (Galatians 2:20; Romans 6:6). The self-ish, sinful part of our lives no longer needs to dominate. When self is dominant, God is not.

Causes of Self- Pity

Broken Heart: Your lower nature had you believe that someone’s love, often a parent or spouse was supposed to be unconditional, but that was putting unreasonable expectations on another human being.  There is only one Best Lover and that is God

 If you have a broken heart, you expect to be hurt by everyone for the rest of your life.  In order to get past this, you need to stop taking responsibility for the sins of others as if they were yours.

 Adversity: There is glory in tribulation, because it’s the first step towards victory.  When we can overcome our difficulties they are no longer problems.  We never have to work at them again because we have perfected them.  The things we have overcome become our victories; which changes our personality and our spirituality and who we are.  But to overcome takes practice, and we can’t practice without taking the first steps.  Self-pity won’t let you take those steps.

Ways to Opt out of Self-Pity

         Turn to God:  Until we turn to God, His love can’t reach us

         Read the Writings:  The only way to break the cycles is to understand and start following the Words of God.  Nothing else can change the way you think.

        Make self-pity your enemy: If you do it in a fun way, catching yourself in the action and letting it know there’s no room in your heart for it, you will find yourself laughing in delight.  

         Detachment:  It’s not the load that breaks you down but the way you carry it.  Detachment and self-sacrifice are the keys:

         Happiness: Happiness comes from our higher nature.  Our reality is spiritual, and when we live in that world, we are truly happy, but again we have to choose it for ourselves, and the best way to be able to choose, is to know the truth

         Work:  The cure for self-pity is to engage in some occupation. Personally I love to work to occupy my mind.

         Understand it’s a process: Nothing is permanent, everything you see today is just a phase which will definitely pass.

         Gratitude/Thanksgiving: Self-pity is opposite to goodness in your life.  The opposite of self-pity is gratitude and thankfulness.  It’s easier to overcome something when we have a positive attitude.

This is the little I know. I would love to hear your views. Kindly drop your comments below and if you would like me to share an inspiration, idea or personal experience to help a life.  Kindly send the write-up to chukwuuju@ymail.com and specify if you want to be left as anonymous.

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