In this world we love competition, most times they put us
out of line which definitely is not supposed to be. I believe in the law of improvement
than in the strive for competition.
Hello, thank you for taking out time to stop by here today
and I will be discussing about living for you. In life there are so many factors
to living.
There is influence, pressure, worries, conviction,
competition and lots more.
These factors in most cases makes us shift perspective, makes
us deviate from who we are to, living for what we are not.
I will be treating all of these factors one after the other:
- · Influence: The capacity to have an effect on the character, development, or behaviour of someone or something, or the effect itself, (as the dictionary said) and most times this is gotten from friends or the feeling to belong.
ONE ADVICE
Rather than being influenced, be the influencer.
- · Pressure: It is the force applied perpendicular to the surface of an object per unit area over which that force is distributed. Ehnnn!! dictionary wants to do me the thing, all I am trying to say is Pressure is the force on something. This can come from parents and friends. More often parents whereby we are under the pressure to study a course we don’t want to or do something we would not want to.
Most times coming from our parents, it could be love but
then…...
ONE ADVICE
If you do not live everyday doing what you love, you will
live everyday acting what you do not love.
God made us for a reason and that reason we must find and
achieve, our parents were created for a reason too, we are to obey them but not
be subject to them, we owe our subjectness (if there is a word like that
*winks) to God our creator. Our parents will want us to do things because of
the love they have for us but then God wants us also to do things He wants for
us and trust me most times His decision for us are independently communicated
or passed across to us, it could come through the words of our parents or
friends but most importantly seek His counsel first.
- · Worries: I term this word with death because it is not easy to get off worries, it’s like you are about losing your brains. One worry leads to another. Worried about how people will see you if you live like this instead of like that, worried about how you will make the next person feel if you say the truth, worried about the dress you will wear and what people will think, worries about this or that.
ONE ADVICE
The things you worry about yourself is what someone out
there is praying for.
How many people worry about you? You worry about how people
will look at your dress, or how people will think if you say this or say that,
how many people bother if you wear clothes, if you have no food to eat how many
people will be bothered?
The secret of existence is living for you. When you live for
you, you find solutions to problems even before they come. You enjoy every
moment and not bother what people think. The masterminds of your life are YOU
and GOD, the earlier you begin to understand this the better for you and us. People
grow to accept you for who you are when you live true and right, but people
tend to pretend to accept you for who you are when you are acting to fit in and that fades in no time.
The last but not the least factor
- · Competition: Chai! This is a destroyer, competing with people just when you can be the better one.
ONE ADVICE
Rather than be the Competitor be the Competition.
All of these are phases I personally have gone through in
life and I must say that every lesson learnt and I am still learning is
amazing. The ability to live for you is priceless because so many people want
to do that but find themselves deviating. It is a conscious effort and I pray
that my little advice can make you think of making the change.
I Believe in you.
I will love to hear your thoughts too and please feel free to drop your advice in the comment box, someone might need it.
Point on Uju. We should all stop the competition. Even among siblings we compete. We decided to have a thrifty Christmas and our budget for Christmas gifts had to be reduced. Someone made a statement to me about how my gift this year is lower than what I gave last year. And that she went all out to ensure she gives a higher gift that I will! I was amazed at such competitive spirit! Men, ladies, live within ur means, be happy were u are, compete with ur past but not with someone.
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DeleteThanks dear for stopping by. Compliments once again.
You said it all
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Really? thanks dear. Been trying to open your link but it is not working, it takes me to my page. Kindly confirm your details.
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The last one really got me....We really need to stop competing with others and live our own life. May God help us
ReplyDeleteThe pressure from parents?some of us cant just handle them.Will work on being the influencer
Am having same problem with AbleMoja too oooo
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Chinco Darling, we should see soon, you have been so much of a sweetheart. Yes dear God will definitely help us.
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I constantly worry and definitely take after my mom.. I need to start doing some yoga this year to relax lol! I seriously worry about the stupidest things. I really enjoyed reading this post and wish you the best for 2016:-)
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I should come take all those your lovely outfits so you will have me to worry about.Lool
DeleteYou really shouldn't dear. Thumbs up to the Yoga make sure you do. :)
I wish you the best too for 2016